(Closed) Wedding Ceremony Vrs. JP Etiquette?

posted 10 years ago in Ceremony
Post # 3
2419 posts
Buzzing bee

The person you should really talk to first is your priest/pastor. Different churches have different guidelines on what they regard as appropriate in these cases. For example, if it’s a Catholic church, this would technically be considered a convalidation rather than a wedding, and different priests vary a lot on how many of the trappings of a wedding they will include.

That said, most clergy (of whatever denomination) will be really happy that you are prioritizing sanctifying your marriage in your church, and they will probably be willing to work with you on a lot of stuff. But talk to them first because their opinions are the ones that will carry the most weight.

Post # 4
1875 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

Well, if you went to a JOP, that would be your wedding ceremony.  So you can’t really have another ceremony after that.  You could have a blessing of your marriage if you wanted or a vowel renewal – but it wouldn’t be a wedding ceremony.  You can also have a big reception at a later day after the JOP.  However, it would be highly inappropriate to have all of the pre-wedding parties (showers, bachelorettes, etc.) if you are already married – it would look really gift-grabby.  So you need to either wait and have the church wedding with all the pre-wedding parties, or you can have the JOP wedding now with a reception later but forgo showers, etc.

Honestly though, I would put your foot down with your family and get married when and where you want to.


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