(Closed) Wedding Ceremony Wording

posted 6 years ago in Ceremony
Post # 3
168 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: April 2013

Mine is rather long.. So here are some snippets 🙂

Reason for the initials is we are having two officiants perform our wedding.. Hope you like it 🙂

AMR:  It’s been 5 and a half years since Devin & Melissa first met and began this beautiful relationship.  It is evident to anyone who knows these two that they are already deeply committed to each other.  These two balance each other in so many great ways: they can laugh and have fun together, but also support each other in difficult times…so why get married?  In the words of the Little Prince: ‘Life has taught us that love does not consist in gazing at each other, but in looking outward together in the same direction.’ Devin & Melissa are standing here before you today to formally pledge their love for each other looking outward in the same direction, and we have been invited to share and celebrate this moment with them.

AW: “In marriage the greatest courage will be required. We are put to the test of continuing to accept each other with all defects revealed; but beyond this may be faced with the anguish of having to accept our own weaknesses.  And this is the most difficult of all that is required of us: to accept that we are not as we should like to think we are, and that we are not as we should like the world to think we are.  But marriage also offers us the condition for the supreme fulfillment of human life: for our acceptance of our spouse with all the strengths and weaknesses, our works of love for our companion in marriage and for our children, and above all our acceptance of ourselves as we are, all these open us to receive the very ground of our being; all these bring us to the glory of existence.”

AMR: Devin & Melissa acknowledge that people are never perfect, but that love can be and it is the one thing, the one power that can transform what is mediocre and vile.  In the words of Tom Robbins, “Loving makes love. Loving makes itself. We waste time looking for the perfect lover instead of creating the perfect love.” Today and every day after, Devin & Melissa are committed to creating this perfect love together.

 Reading by Roy Croft “Passage on Love”

AW: Devin & Melissa, today you are making a choice.  A truly spiritual marriage is about honoring your partner and allowing your partner the freedom to grow and express his or her own uniqueness and creativity.  It is constantly choosing to love and work out your differences. It is choosing, especially in times of difficulty and challenge, to return quickly to love. 

They will tell a story on how the two of us met here. 

AMR: Devin & Melissa believe that a successful marriage is not searching for someone to complete them or to make secure their future.  Rather, it is working together with the knowledge that everything you need in life – all the love, wisdom, insight, power, knowledge, understanWding, nurturing, compassion, and all the strength – resides within you… and that you are not each marrying the other in hopes of getting these things, but in hopes of giving these gifts, that the other might have them in even greater abundance. 

AW: Finally, Devin & Melissa, you have said to us that you do not see marriage as producing obligations, but rather as providing opportunities:  opportunities for growth, for full Self-expression, for lifting your lives to their highest potential, for healing every false thought or small idea you ever had about yourself,

AMR: …that this is truly a partnership… a journey through life with one you love as an equal, sharing equally both the authority and the responsibilities inherent in any partnership, bearing equally what burdens there be, basking equally in the glories, and together, making the world a better place. 

Wine Box Ceremony

Reading : Robert Fulghum – “Union”

AW: Look closely at one another. This is not who you will be married to in twenty years…You will both change, in ways you cannot even imagine now.

AMR: The key to a long and happy marriage is to recognize this, and to adjust to the ways in which you change separately and the ways in which you change together.

AW: The meaning of marriage begins in action, but also with a declaration. You cannot be joined to one another without giving your word.  The meaning of marriage begins in action, but also with a declaration. You cannot be joined to one another without giving your word. In the words of Pema Chodron: “Vows commit us to the work ahead, psychological and spiritual.  They insist we cultivate mercy and awareness.  That we do the work it takes to offer all we are.  Your commitment to each other is embodied in your commitment to your spiritual path.” 

AMR: She goes on to say: “In relationships, the challenges are to give in, to surrender our way of doing things, and not to split when we feel threatened.  Basically the challenge is to be genuine – to feel our pounding heart or shaking knees or whatever it is, and stick with it.”  Devin & Melissa have written their own vows…I ask you to perform your vows in the presence of these witnesses. 


Apache Prayer

AW: Now you will feel no rain, for each of you will be a shelter to each other.

AMR: Now, you will feel no cold, for each of you will be warmth to each other.

AW: Now there will be no loneliness for you; for each of you will be a companion to the other.

AMR: Now you are two bodies, but there is only one life before you.

AW:  Go now to your dwelling place to enter your days together.

AMR: And may your days be good and long on this earth.


 AW: Devin & Melissa, may your home be a place of happiness for all who enter it; a place where the old and the young are renewed in each other’s company, a place for growing and a place for sharing, a place for music, a place for dance, a place for laughter, and a place for love.

AMR: May those who are nearest to you be constantly enriched by the beauty and the bounty of your love for one another, may your work be a joy of your life that serves the world, and may your days be good and long upon the Earth.

AW: Devin & Melissa, as you have committed yourselves to each other in the sacred bond of marriage.

AMR: By the power of your choice and the words that you have spoken to each other…

AW & AMR:  It is our privilege and honor to declare – that from this moment forward – you – are – married, husband and wife, wife and husband. You may kiss the bride.

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