Post # 1
Hi all, Ok. So i signed up a long time ago (originally i had my wedding set for May 26sth 2012). Anyway I’ve been coming here and just searching and geting LOTS of help from just reading other people’s questions and answers, but now i have a question of my own i havent FOUND any advice for. I’m guessing not a lot of girls are having this probleml.
Our wedding is fast aproaching and i’m still having trouble working on the invitations, Well more like the RSVP cards. We ARE allowing children at our wedding, (well just because my cousin didn’t and a lot of her guest were a “NO SHOW” because they couldn’t bring their kids a lot of her food went to waste and chairs were open (chairs that were paid for) and i don’t want that happening to me). We are having a medium wedding (200 tops) and we are paying for all of it ourselves. We are allowing children at our wedding but we will be providing them with a separat room & food of their own… HOW DO I WORD MY RSVPS? Should i include the count of TOTAL adults & children or JUST ADULTS and just note at the bottom “children welcomed”? Any advice is very much appreciated.
Ex. I’m inviting my Anut and uncle and their 7yr old child is welcomed..
Should i write under the “We have reserved 3 seats in your honour” (count the child) or
“We have reserved 2 seats in oyour honour”
and at the bottom write “Children welcomed”
To be honest i’m a little scared that if i INCLUDE the children in the count like my first ex. people will invite ANOTHER ADULT guest and still bring their children also.
THANK YOU IN ADVANCE!
Smaple of what i have now…
the favour of a reply is requested
before september first
We have reserved ____ seats in your honour
___ of ____ accept(s) with pleasure
____ declines with regrets
Post # 3
I think you could use the # of seats for just the adults, then on a seperate card (like the reception card or an insert) you could explain that children are welcome but explain the seperate room part for them. I think parents will want to know if their kids will be with them or in another room (although I think they would be thrilled to get a break!).
Post # 4
Thank you! And yes, that’s true. I know my sisters will be thrilled to enjoy the reception and having their kids watched, but knowing they can walk over to the other room and keep an eye at them from time to time. Thank you! i’m going to write your idea down and talk it over with my fiancé.
Post # 5
@k_lovelife03 I don’t have any advice, but thanks for asking the question! We are having kids at our wedding too, mainly because we have a lot of cousins that we would like to come and they all have kids they wouldn’t want to leave behind. What is going on in the seperate room? Did you hire a babysitter or two?
Post # 6
- Wedding: March 2012 - Pelican Grand Beach Resort
I would keep the card for just adults, address the invitations to include the children and then include a note at the bottom of the RSVP card that says somethink like, “A childrens’ selection will be offered. Please alert us if you will be bringing any children under (age).” The line of seats offered should be just for the adults but should include teenagers. The age of delineation will probably be determined by our caterer. We had to count all 10 and over as adults.
Post # 7
Yes we were thinking of having a bbysitter and having, movies, coloring books and games for them just didnt want them to be runing around, sadly some of my relatives dont really “watch” their kids and just let them do what they want, so we were hoping this would help… they could run all they want in the other room lol
Post # 8
@mrsSonthebeach: Thank you. I think i’m going to go with that option. Just keeping the card for adults and teens is the best option. Thank God most of the kids are under 10 haha if not we’d need a lot more seats! But i think i’m still doing 13 and up for seating. :/
Post # 9
Maybe you should say you have reserved for __ adults and __ children on all the cards and that way there is no confusion? I would be confused if there were three names on the card but only two seats reserved. I recently received a wedding invitation where they asked for ___number of adults, __ number of children and __ not attending. It did not specify the total number of guests we were allowed per invite though.
Post # 10
@plzhalp: Thats also a great idea, but i will be filling in the number of adults and children for them too. lol. I don’t have the room, so i don’t want to leave any roomf or them to think they can bring however many guest they want. 😀 BECAUSE THEY WILL. lol
Post # 11
I really don’t see how people would confuse thatyour you address the invitation to “smith family” or whatever, and there are 3 of them, I’m sure they count their child as a person. I don’t see thmended to do anything else, unless your guests are incredibly dumb! (no offense)!