- 6 years ago
- Wedding: May 2016
Reading another post inspired me to write this one in hopes of getting advice on how to handle things now.. so here it goes.
I’ve been engaged for a few months, and since I dont have my mom, my Aunt is helping me plan the wedding. Last month, my cousin (my Aunt’s daughter) threw a fit that her mom was helping me plan my wedding instead of planning her baby shower. We are all very, very excited about her baby, and cannot wait to meet him, but my cousin has always snubbed her nose at big, elaborate parties, so we all kind of assumed her shower would have been a backyard bbq kind of deal at our grandmas or something. Clearly she had something else in mind.
So I encouraged my aunt to go celebrate her coming grandson, and we’d pick up wedding planning later. I even offered to help however we could. In the meantime, my cousin who has seen everything that we’ve been deciding on for the wedding, decided to use the exact same decorations for her shower. AND her shower was held in a reception hall. So we basically got a preview of our wedding. I wasn’t happy about it, but let it go. No big deal, I told myself.
After the shower, my Aunt and I went back to wedding planning. Last night, however, put me on the fence to pull the plug on our wedding, honestly. My cousin happened to be wearing some new rings on a very important finger, and my other aunt asked her about it. Turns out, they had a courthouse wedding 2 weeks ago, and never planned to tell anyone. But here’s the fantastic part (major sarcasm).. they want to have a big reception the Saturday after my wedding, and my cousin wants my aunt to plan everything.
I had to go take a walk after they announced all of that, because wtf?! I know that my cousin just HAS to be center of attention, and always has been that way. But for once I don’t want to feel like I have to compete with her to get noticed. And given that this is my Aunt’s daughter, I’m not going to be selfish and make her stress over planning both parties. So I’m on my own again.
After we got home last night, my fiance and I talked about just canceling the wedding and eloping, but it’s not what either of us really want. I just DO NOT want to have to deal with my selfish cousin and this BS she’s starting. Any advice on how to deal with this?