- 5 years ago
3 months out from the wedding, if I could start over, here is what I would do differently:
No bridal party. I currently have 4 BMs and 2 Groomsmen, which has just ended up being costly and full of drama and cattyness (I chose half as they were close to my heart, but the other half were to keep the peace and out of obligation). I would instead have none.
I would cut my guest list from 80 to 50, and only invite the closest of family and friends. Instead of choosing a more casual venue to accommodate more people, I would choose somewhere more formal and personal, more to my taste.
I would have an indoor ceremony at the hotel of my reception.
Savings from the smaller bridal party would go towards having details I truly wanted, such as a fresh bouquet instead of silk, and the dress I would REALLY have liked (instead of having to order online).
The biggest influence I have found which impacted my decisions which I now regret, are having people play a role or be invited out of obligation – if any other brides are out there feeling this pressure, please resist. Dont regret it like me.