(Closed) Wedding Coordinator

posted 7 years ago in Reception
Post # 3
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214 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

As a wedding planner myself, and planning my own wedding…  I would NEVER intrust such a special day to someone who has no background or really isn’t that close to me. With that being said, it seems a little odd that she needs an assistant, that just makes me feel even more nervous for you.

I am having a destination wedding and I plan on givnig my list of things to my mom to micro-manage the on-site wedding coordinator. My mom knows how anal I am (hence it’s my job, haha) and she knows that I will have everything written out for her to check off to make sure everything is perfect just as if I was doing it myself.

Back to you question- I think it is odd and I suggest you find someone close to you who will take as much care in your special day as you are yourself if an actual planner is out of your budget. You don’t want to have to look over anyones shoulder on your bid day.

Post # 4
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214 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

Smile Trust your gut!

Post # 5
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328 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: November 2012

My DOC is actually two girls (sisters in the wedding planning business). I feel like having twice as many hands on the day of the wedding will help me out a ton! I can have on running around the venue making sure all that stuff is taken care of and the other one running around with me and helping with pictures, etc.

The thing about hiring someone is they should have the freedom to delegate as they see fit. If my DOC’s brought in some help, I wouldn’t mind at all, as long as they are still in charge.

Also, since she is new to it, maybe having a friend help her out is somewhat of moral support for herself.

I wouldn’t worry about it too much as long as you feel that together they can help you achieve a vision of a perfect day!

Beee happy!

Post # 6
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255 posts
Helper bee

As a wedding planner I’d like to chime in too. 

I agree with @cupcake 1382 you should absolutely have someone you trust on the day of your wedding–given that you don’t know her that well you don’t really know how she is under stress. I have a small wedding firm and we work in pairs, do I NEED to have an assistant with me? No. However I can’t run your ceremony–leave once I get you down the aisle–light the candles–and be there waiting with champagne the minute you leave the church. It’s that extra level of service a planner provides that warrents a second assistant. For smaller weddings this can certainly be done solo–heck I just had a wedding this weekend and it turned out WONDERFUL. With all of that said I would never-ever just invite someone to come a long with me if it hadn’t been discussed with my client first. In your contract are you providing a vendor meal? If so is this now for 2?

I personally think given her inexperience that she needs the other person bc she needs moral support. Go with your gut girl–if this sounds off–which it does to me then politely thank her and go in another direction. 

 

Pheebes

 

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