(Closed) Gift or Money to the Bride & Groom? and how much?

posted 6 years ago in Money
  • poll: What do you usually give to the bride and groom?
    An actual gift from their registry (cost between $25 and $50) : (20 votes)
    13 %
    An actual gift from their registry (cost between $50 and $100) : (29 votes)
    19 %
    An actual gift from their registry (cost $100+) : (13 votes)
    8 %
    A card with money ($25-$50 per person) : (17 votes)
    11 %
    A card with money ($50-$100) per person : (42 votes)
    27 %
    A card with money (Over $100) per person : (34 votes)
    22 %
  • Post # 3
    1434 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: February 2010

    Same. I’m Arab (and have some Greek family members) and at our weddings it is perfectly normal to recieve a 300-500 check from guests. Our wedding cost us around 18k and we got back about 14k plus some random gifts from VERY close friends such as a dinner room table set, a juicer, a gold bracelet(for me). So, those were pricey too!

    We usually give $100 because we’re just a couple….but if we had kids that were invited aswell or if it was a close friend….then yeah, we’d dish our more. But that’s just how it goes….


    Post # 4
    7901 posts
    Bumble Beekeeper
    • Wedding: March 2012 - Pelican Grand Beach Resort

    There are numerous factors involved for me, the formality of the wedding, how close we are to the couple, etc. Plus, if there is something on the registry that I personally find really awesome an valuable, I might spend more than I planned. I definitely did this to buy a friend a LeCreuset item that was about $30 past our budget because it was something I would lvoe and I knew the couple would too.

    Post # 5
    1575 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: October 2012

    I wouldn’t know as we are requesting no gifts.

    Post # 6
    3569 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: April 2013

    How much I spends depends on the couple and my relationship with them, and not going to lie if I know they young or broke I put in a little extra. How much someone spent on their wedding doesn`t matter to me when gettign a gift for the couple.

    I am not basing my wedding cost on how much I think I would recieve, we are going with what we can afford.

    Post # 8
    2214 posts
    Buzzing bee

    My cousins and I were discussing this recently, and it seems pretty standard that we all give $150 per person.

    Post # 9
    14568 posts
    Honey Beekeeper
    • Wedding: June 2011

    My friends and family were very generous, most giving 100-300.  A few were unbelieveable generous and gave upwards of 1k.

    Post # 10
    3461 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: May 2012

    I usually give a gift, but lately I’ve started giving more cash as I get older and know people don’t need “things” as much anymore.  Likewise our registry is not enormous so I expect it’ll fill up and I don’t think we’ll register for more just to have random stuff on there. 

    @KT808: The poll is actually about what you do for weddings, not what you got (although the title is about what you got). 

    ETA: Various by relationship, my finances, cost of travel, etc.  I fly to most weddings so if I need to stay in a hotel that’s $500-$1000.  I used to give gifts ~$125 but amped that up to $150 about 3-5 years ago.  For my cousin’s wedding last year, I paid for her cupcakes ($250).  Just depends really.  My sister’s was a non-monetary personal labor of love & time, my brother’s was a monetary one but still labor of love (went to 8+ stores in 4 states trying to track down items that had gotten discontinued because they registered too far in advance).  We’re likely going to start giving $175 in the future for the standard gift (that said, next upcoming is his brother’s, so it’ll be more).

    Post # 11
    2725 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: November 2011

    There was another thread about this and I think it came down to location.

    Post # 12
    246 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: April 2013

    we are italian. we give at least 150 per person, to any wedding of a friend, co worker, and or friend of the family. If it is a close family member it woukd be around 250 up to 600 per person.

    Post # 13
    595 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: October 2011

    Not married yet – but I’ve noticed a difference between my family & friends in Michigan vs. fiance’s family & friends in Chicago. Our Michigan folks tend to give $50-75 per person, whereas our Chicago folks tend to give $100-200 per person.

    Post # 15
    602 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: March 2012

    Around here we “cover our plate” which is usually 125-150 per person.

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