Post # 1
I am SO torn! Currently, I am 12 weeks pregnant. (No, we’re not getting married just because of the baby.) Right now, we are leaning towards getting married at the courthouse, then having a “real” wedding next year after the baby is born (and I am no longer a fat hot mess). This is mostly for financial reasons… i.e. health insurance. I will be quitting my job to stay home with the baby and my oldest son, and my oldest and I will have to find new health insurance or do without until my boyfriend and I tie the knot.
I don’t know whether to just wait to get married until next year, do what we are currently planning, or just plan the small, simple, family-only wedding that we want while I am pregnant. Oh but my belly in a dress? Seems so tacky. I don’t know that I could do it.
Anyways, I was wondering who has experience with this… what did you decide, and if you went the ‘courthouse then real wedding’ route, did the courthouse marriage and being married already before a wedding kind of ruin the whole thing for you? Also, how was planning a wedding pregnant and being huge on your wedding day if you went that route… would you do it again if you had a do-over?
Post # 2
If it’s a small, simple wedding it might be possible to plan it in a month or two before you really start showing? Just my personal opinion, but if you can swing a celebration with your family and close friends for the legal part you should. Plus I’m sure it’ll be harder to plan a wedding with a newborn!!
Post # 3
I found out I was pregnant when I was graduating college. My husband and I had been together for 2 months, and we knew we wanted to be together for the rest of our lives. But we waited to get married after our baby was born. She was four months old and we’re glad we did it that way. I wouldn’t have wanted to get married while super pregnant. I know that one friend of ours did this, but she was nearly 8 months pregnant at the time. We did a JOP wedding, but it was a simple wedding. We got married on a Tuesday, went out to dinner, and nearly a year later we’re happier than ever and glad that we did it the way we wanted.
Post # 4
I’d do whatever it takes to be at home with my children. Have a vow renewal later.
Post # 5
I would say you should have a small, inexpensive ceremony now. Maybe just a very small gathering at a courthouse (or chapel), and then a dinner party or something low-key to celebrate with the cherished members of your family.
Post # 6
One of my girlfriend’s got married while pregnant at the courthouse. She wore this beautiful ivory chiffon maxi dress. It really was the icing on the cake for me. In a few years they are going to have a formal wedding for their vow renewal date. You could invite your family to the courthouse wedding or do something small maybe in your backyard/park. Congratulation’s on your bundle though!
Post # 7
I say go to the courthouse and than have a wedding when the baby is up and walking and not needing to be breastfeed. Since the baby is going to be coming soon the money you have now should be spent on getting baby supplies because they can be pretty expensive.
I know I had a baby 9 month ago and we wanted to wait until he was no longer breastdeesing and at least at one year of age and walking around or should I say running around so he could enjoy the wedding as much as we could.
Oh and if your no longer breastfeeding you can actually drink at your wedding which I am so looking foward too which is a plus too. It also gives you time to save too if you wait.
My fiance cousin got married when she was pregnant. She had a small low key wedding. She made her own cake and invited only very close relatives to her wedding to save money. She looked fine but I wouldn’t be too happy getting married when I was pregnant. Planning a wedding is stressful as is put pregnancy and being hormanal on top of that just not fun.
Post # 8
Financial security and health insurance are important, so I would get married at the courthouse now, and then later on have a more traditional wedding party if you want.