Post # 1
So Darling Husband and I are hosting a reception in his hometown (we got married in the US, he’s from NZ) this weekend and we just got 2 RSVPs for people that are not on our guestlist. We’ve checked in with DH’s parents, grandparents, siblings… nobody knows who these people are. We have our RSVP online through our wedding website which is how they were able to send the RSVPs through. We did the same thing for the original wedding and didn’t have any issues.
Anyway, I’m not getting too stressed about it. I realize it could be a mistake or maybe just someone bored on the internet. But it got me thinking… if we did get wedding crashers, what would I do? Take it all in stride and invite them in? Kick em out? It’s a small reception, less than 50 people and almost all directly related to Darling Husband, so it will be very obvious if someone shows up uninvited.
Has anyone ever had someone crash their wedding? What did/would you do?
Post # 2
Most likely it’s just someone taking the piss because just because they could. Might want to check your security settings on your wedding website – make sure it’s not public. If wedding crashers do show up, just ask them to leave and if they refuse then call the cops.
We had people try to crash my sister’s wedding – It was on a farm and it was a pretty big rager in a small town, so a bunch kids in their 20s tried to see if they could sneak in (we’re not from there so we didn’t know them). I came across them asked them who they were and they just said, “Oh we’re here for the Smith* wedding.” I was 20, angsty, and several wines deep so naturally I kicked gravel at them and yelled “IT”S SMYTHE* LOSERS” and they left.
Post # 3
I would Google the names and see who pops up (or even if they’re jokes names from a movie or tv show) and I would search the names on Facebook to see if they are friends in common with any if your real guests. But if your website is public then it’s likely just a joke.
Post # 4
It didn’t happen to me, but if it did I would have kicked them out. We payed per meal and had exactly enough seats, so even if it WAS someone I knew and liked, they would have no place to sit and no food to eat. I would have been livid if someone tried to crash my wedding and somehow ended up eating a meal planned for someone else! We had to cut the guest list enough to accommodate the size of the ballroom and our budget, so there is no way I would let someone in when I had a huge list of people I would have invited if I could that deserved to be there more.
I agree with the others, Google the names and see if you know them but it could be just a random joke! Maybe have a strategy for it in case it happens though, like a groomsman or uncle on security watch.
Post # 5
For me, I think it would depend on if they were acting decent or not. If they were insane I’d kick then out myself. But if they were jolly and fun, I’d be open to keeping them around and inviting them in for some laughs.
Post # 6
For the record, I’m pretty sure this is just someone bored on the internet and I’m not too worried about it. Just got me wondering what I WOULD do!
At first I thought it would take a lot of nerve and I’d definitely have them kicked out. But then I started thinking… a lot of DH’s family are not big partiers. I’d be happy to let a crasher stay if they could get these people dancing!
Post # 7
We had some crashers. Our reception was upstairs in a pub and although they had security on the door to the stairs these two slipped through. I came across them at the top of the stairs and asked who they were. They left pretty quickly.
I was also a bit tipsy by that point.
Post # 8
I would almost definitely kick them out, especially if it were a small or formal wedding. If it were more relaxed and they seemed like fun I might let them in, you have to be careful though as they could then invite a load of other people and it could get out of hand very quickly.
Post # 9
At my first wedding, one of my bridemaids told me that these people came in and they weren’t dressed proposely which tipped her off to maybe they weren’t supposed to be there so she asked them who they were and they said they were there because the banquet hall was giving them food to taste for an event that they had coming up so she went to go get the owner and they went back to their car and left lol. I’m pretty sure a Banquet place wouldn’t have taste testing with a wedding going on lol