- 7 years ago
- Wedding: August 2007
We had a lot of out of towners at our wedding who travelled very far to be there. Because our guest list was so big we decided to only do dinner for close family and friends and out of towners and have a reception afterwards where anyone was welcome, even if they didn’t receive an official invite. One of the OOT couples was travelling with another couple we had never met before. We met them briefly the week before the wedding and there was no mention of them attending the wedding as a – they were not invited because b- Did I mention we don’t know them?!
So, the week goes on, they show up at our rehearsal dinner, the ceremony, the cocktail hour after the ceremony and then, just as we’re about to make our entrance into the dinner my husband turns to me – on his cellphone with the guests who brought these people – and asks if they can come to dinner?! I, as calmly as I could, told him that there were only enough place settings and food for our guests, we went back and forth a couple times and he finally told them no. So on goes with dinner, where I spot another uninvited guest sitting at a table?!! I’m assuming they just added a place setting and served her dinner…
So after the dinner we take a break and freshen up for the reception, at this point I don’t care who joins the party, so we see the crashers there and that’s fine, until I throw my bouquet… and the woman in this couple catches it… the ONE person I don’t know in the crowd!!! Then her bf takes another guy out – I mean totally crashes into him sending him to the floor to catch the garter?!!!! WTF?!!! I was fine until this moment at which point I told the band to skip the song/dance for the bouquet/garter catchers and get on with the reception …
So… I pushed it out of my head, even later when I saw them outside and they were flashing the bouquet and garter to everyone, so proud of themselves, I stayed calm, but inside I was so disappointed that it wasn’t someone I knew 🙁 I feel a bit of resentment towards the other couple for bringing them, I mean, they came specifically for our wedding so why in gods name did they bring a couple we don’t know?! I keep telling myself that it’s over and there’ s nothing I can do about it now but when it comes up in conversations and my own friends are pissed about it it gets me going again. I would never ever do that and don’t understand how anyone else could?!
How would you have dealt with the situation?