Post # 1
So I was at a friend’s wedding this weekend, when suddenly I realized that I have become SO ANNOYED with a very common practice I’ve seen over and OVER again…
While my fiance and I-and most of our friends- love dancing to the point where you can’t tear us off the dance floor, my best friend and her guy aren’t. They are genuinely very happy to sit at their table and talk/visit, drink, actually eat the cake! and watch other people dance. It makes both of them very uncomfortable to do any dancing other than slow-dancing. I know there are many other people out there who genuinely just DON’T like dancing in front of people.
I can’t even begin to tell you how many people came up to them at the wedding we were at this weekend, literally PULLING them out of their chairs, and dragging them to the dancefloor despite their protests. Only to have my best friend and her guy turn around and walk away. I have seen this happen to her (and others) MULTIPLE times at weddings, or really any event which has dancing. And it ends up just embarassing my Boyfriend or Best Friend horribly. People assume they’re “helping” a non-dancer get into the party, but why don’t people get that if a person wanted to dance, they would already be dancing?
What’s up with this? Has any other non-dancing couples out there ever experienced this, too? I just think it’s SO rude!
Post # 3
@RaeTRud: yeah, some people just don’t understand that some people just don’t like to dance!!! hubs and I love to dance, and were on the dance floor all night, but one of my best friends doesn’t and was out for a few dances, but hung out and talked with people most of the night. I don’t understand how people don’t realize that it makes them MORE uncomfortable to be singled out, and if people just ignored them, they would be more apt to get up and dance
Post # 4
I know, right?! It’s so annoying!
Post # 5
Hahah yesssss.. yesss… yesss. it is annoying. lol.. I remember my Cousin during one of our family parties – they were all dancing, and he just grabbed me and forced me to dance with him in the big circle they all created on the dance floor.. haha I stood there for a good minute. Shook my body for a sec, politely smiled and walked away. well obviouly its not as lame as I wrote it, but I did walk away. haha
Post # 6
Oh Lord!!! Thank you!! This happens to me at every event with a dance floor and it ruins the night for me. I wind up feeling like a total kill-joy if I don’t attempt to smile and shake before walking away completely humiliated. Just b/c I’m sitting and watching doesn’t mean I’m longing for a Footloose moment.
Post # 7
Exactly! Its not like your holding up a sign saying ” Why dont u come force me to dance cuz I just cant do it” If you wanna dance, yoll do it! I mean you made it to the party, you can make it to the dance floor if u want.. haha..
Post # 8
I dunno if I agree…I’ve been in a position where I kind of wanted to dance, but also kind of didn’t want to because I felt awkward for whatever reason, and it was actually really nice to have someone pull me onto the dance floor, at the very least to know that I’m wanted! And maybe I ended up having fun.
Post # 9
I know that all too well. Darling Husband and I are not dancers. He only danced with me maybe 3 times at our wedding and all were slow songs. I danced a little more with my bridesmaids but I certainly wasn’t ripping up the dance floor like some brides. I absolutely LOATH it when people insist on making others dance which is why conga lines are the bain of my existence. If I wanted to dance, I’ll dance. Being forced onto the dance floor just makes me hate it even more.