(Closed) Wedding Dancing PET PEEVE- if you do this, DON’T

posted 10 years ago in Music
Post # 3
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: October 2009

@RaeTRud: yeah, some people just don’t understand that some people just don’t like to dance!!! hubs and I love to dance, and were on the dance floor all night, but one of my best friends doesn’t and was out for a few dances, but hung out and talked with people most of the night. I don’t understand how people don’t realize that it makes them MORE uncomfortable to be singled out, and if people just ignored them, they would be more apt to get up and dance

Post # 5
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

Hahah yesssss.. yesss… yesss. it is annoying. lol..  I remember my Cousin during one of our family parties – they were all dancing, and he just grabbed me and forced me to dance with him in the big circle they all created on the dance floor.. haha I stood there for a good minute. Shook my body for a sec, politely smiled and walked away. well obviouly its not as lame as I wrote it, but I did walk away. haha

Post # 6
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: March 2011

Oh Lord!!! Thank you!!  This happens to me at every event with a dance floor and it ruins the night for me.  I wind up feeling like a total kill-joy if I don’t attempt to smile and shake before walking away completely humiliated.  Just b/c I’m sitting and watching doesn’t mean I’m longing for a Footloose moment.

Post # 7
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

@jjmomma:

 

Exactly! Its not like your holding up a sign saying ” Why dont u come force me to dance cuz I just cant do it” If you wanna dance, yoll do it! I mean you made it to the party, you can make it to the dance floor if u want.. haha..

Post # 8
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

I dunno if I agree…I’ve been in a position where I kind of wanted to dance, but also kind of didn’t want to because I felt awkward for whatever reason, and it was actually really nice to have someone pull me onto the dance floor, at the very least to know that I’m wanted! And maybe I ended up having fun.

Post # 9
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: October 2011

I know that all too well. DH and I are not dancers. He only danced with me maybe 3 times at our wedding and all were slow songs. I danced a little more with my bridesmaids but I certainly wasn’t ripping up the dance floor like some brides. I absolutely LOATH it when people insist on making others dance which is why conga lines are the bain of my existence. If I wanted to dance, I’ll dance. Being forced onto the dance floor just makes me hate it even more.

Post # 11
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

Sooo, what you’re saying is we SHOULDN’T have a conga line? lol! the original plan was to have my samba dancer friends start off the dancing by , in costume ( a sequence thong bikini with big feather vegas showgirl like hat) do a performance and then end it with a conga line to get people on the dance floor. I perform with them at a lot of events and it’s usually a big crowd pleaser. but we don’t force people into it, they always just jump in!

Post # 12
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Buzzing bee

I’ve never experienced that and have never met anyone it has happened to either. No one should ever be forced to dance, but most people have the courtesy to respect others’ choices.

Post # 13
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: April 2011

YES!!!

It’s not that I hate dancing, but I’ve never been taught.  I am truly happy to just people watch.  DH on the other hand would like to dance abit, but I keep him happy with a couple slow songs.

But you’re so right!  If I wanted to dance, I would.  Don’t force me out there, don’t say things that make me feel bad about dancing…just mind your own business!!

Post # 14
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

I really dislike this too. People will go to the dance floor if/when they feel ready/into it. A hail over is ok, but pulling at arms is just very uncomfortable.

Post # 15
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727 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: April 2011

@red_rose: I think there is (generally) a point where you can tell if someone kinda wants to dance or really doesn’t.  Like if the person isn’t laughing and goes and sits back down, leave them be.  If the person kinda laughs and sort of protests but goes along with it, then maybe they actually do want to dance.

Post # 16
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Buzzing bee

@soontobehis, many people have never been taught how to dance but that doesn’t stop them from dancing. It’s a natural thing since all you do is move your body to the music, and many people do it daily without thinking about it. No formal instruction required.

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