(Closed) Wedding Dancing PET PEEVE- if you do this, DON’T

posted 10 years ago in Music
Post # 17
1935 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

I hate this too!  I’m not a dancer and I think it’s rude that people think I’m not dancing because I’m “shy” or just don’t feel comfortable.  Really, I just don’t enjoy it.  I would rather sit and drink and talk.  I don’t drag you off the dance floor and force you to do that because my idea of fun is obviously yours too and you are just shy and incapable of making your own decision to do what you actually want to do. 

ETA – and don’t get me started on people dragging people up to the bouquet toss.  I have turned pretty bitchy when people tried to do that. 

Post # 18
727 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: April 2011

@Ember78: Great.  But I don’t want to “move my body”.  That’s not me.  And apparently there’s many people who don’t want to.  We just want that to be respected!

Post # 19
517 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2009

YES. And just because we (DH and I) aren’t dancing, doesn’t mean we aren’t having fun! I promise! We will have LESS fun if you force us to dance. ๐Ÿ™‚ And I am with  @soon2bhis:  this is not something my body does naturally. lol

Post # 20
2160 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: March 2011

+1 on the “move my body” thing… if I could, you wouldn’t have to drag me to the floor to do it!!  LOL ๐Ÿ™‚ I dance in my living room but in front of people… ummm, nah.  Having an audience takes the fun out of it for me, but I have fun watching the people who are actually good at it! 


@Angelz_love:  A conga line the way you describe sounds fun, actually!  I might even join in for that.  It would get the people who want to be dancing up and moving and it’s simple enough for anyone to do it.  But, when the crowd divides and the non-dancers sit down… LET THEM BE!

Post # 21
118 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: July 2011

Maybe they were just trying to get the party started?..but I guess I understand it’s embarrasing if you are not a person who likes dancing

Post # 22
2160 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: March 2011

@mrs-v-to-be:  When it happens to me, it’s usually long after the dance floor is packed and everyone’s having a blast.  It’s like they want to share the love… ๐Ÿ™‚  I know it’s from a good place though.

Post # 23
3993 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: March 2012

Lol. Fiance and I are not dancers. Our first dance together was at a friend’s wedding last year…We had been together almost 3 years before we slow-danced together in public. LOL. My bff/MOH dances in line at the store, in her car, in a restaurant, when she drinks, when she doesn’t drink…..you get the picture. It took a while for her to figure out I don’t dance in public unless it’s a slow song or something easy/cheesy.

I DESPISE being dragged out to the dance floor. Even more so when it’s for the bouquet toss *cue the awkward single ladies song* even though I am NOT single. The last wedding we went to I was told “You’re not married YET!” Um…no, but I will be very soon.

Post # 24
4497 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

Amen ๐Ÿ™‚ 

I’m a shy dancer myself, but there is nothing worse than people making you feel bad or awkward for just wanting to converse and eat

Post # 25
467 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: August 2012

I’m frequently dragged on to dance floors… At bars, at concerts, at weddings, at company Christmas parties… and I realize that I’m dragged out because I’m not dancing… but when will everyone else realize that I’m not dancing because I choose not to dance??

If I’m sitting or standing at the edge of the room, having a nice chat WHY would anyone think it would be a GREAT idea to drag me (and possibly FH) in to the middle of the crowded dance floor?  I was talking!

Personally, I don’t dance because I’ve injured my back, and crowded dancce floors end up being a bit treacherous – I don’t want to be limping around in pain for the next 3 weeks because somebody was a little too “into” the latest Lady Gaga song and stepped on me or knocked me off balance!  Being yanked on to the dance floor certainly doesn’t help my back either.  Most of the time I’m fine, so I don’t advertise my weak back.

I sure wish people would think twice about disregarding respect for personal space and preferences when a DJ starts playing!

Post # 27
256 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: April 2012

Okay I agree with you… but to a certain extent. DH and I would go out to clubs and he would absolutely REFUSE to dance because he was too shy. He’d say things like.. “I have to have WAY more to drink before I’d even consider getting on the dance floor..” etc, and would always turn me down. I, on the other hand, love anything music related and love to dance my tailfeather off all night long.

I started dragging him out there more and more, and it wasn’t that he didn’t like to dance because he hates dancing, but because he was shy and was afraid he’d look dumb. Now, he’s the one pulling ME out onto the dance floor when we’re out! We joke that I’ve turned him into a dancing machine! So I guess what I’m saying is yes, it can be annoying if people truly hate dancing. But for those shy people that kinda want to but are too shy.. sometimes they just need that little push!

Post # 28
1374 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

I cant even dance with just myself in my room, let alone a room full of people!!!!

Im kind of freaked about my wedding. My guests wont be seeing me or my Fiance on the dance floor. Hes not a dancer either.

Post # 30
5166 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: June 2011

Sometimes I dont mind being dragged up there. I think people are just trying to help since some people are a bit shy of the dance floor at first but then once they get on the dance floor they never leave.

Post # 31
880 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2012



I don’t dance, and the last time somebody grabbed my arm and started to pull me against my will, I shoved them. Hard. You should have seen the shock in their eyes.


Rude behavior will be rewarded with even worse behavior!


I’m a really polite person, but I won’t be pushed and pulled by anyone.

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