(Closed) Wedding Dancing PET PEEVE- if you do this, DON’T

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Post # 32
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: August 1900

My uncle keeps reminding me of a story from when he recently attended a wedding:  the DJ was the one who kept trying to get everyone on the dance floor.  At one point the DJ got on the microphone and stopped all the music.  He kept repeating over and over “We need everybody to dance to this next song!  Everyone.  That means you people over there!!” and points to the table with my uncle and two very elderly people.  He kept this up for an awkward few minutes until the DJ finally gave up and played the song.  How embarrassing!  Not everyone likes dancing.  I am going to make sure to remind my DJ that some guests prefer to watch, and that’s perfectly fine with me, as long as my guests are having a good time.

Post # 33
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

LOL! Shit okay..i admit I DOO do that sometimes…but it is only when I truly believe that the person is REALLY shy and I am trying to help them overcome their shyness…I stick to them and try to make them comfertable….lool…is that bad?! haha I really will be more self consious next time I do it!

Post # 34
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: August 2011

@RaeTRud: Amen.

Love this post. I’m generally a friendly, happy, easy-going person… until someone tries to help me do something by dragging me along. I’m smiling but if looks could kill… lol. I appreciate that some people are more into dancing than I (and my DH) are. Like others, I would so much rather sit and chat and watch. I’m happy there, really!

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@bbutterfly: You have the best of intentions, totally get that. But for someone who is shy, if that’s really what it is, being singled out and dragged along can make it way worse. In my shy days, I always appreciated when someone would chat with me for a bit, though, and introduce me to the folks that I didn’t know yet! Overcoming shyness comes from being comfortable, and dragging does not lead to comfort. Also, some people are quieter and enjoy listening rather than participating, just by their nature – nothing wrong with that!

Post # 35
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

Sheesh I love dancing and would be kinda hurt if my guests didn’t make an effort to dance at my wedding. Everyone can dance with their FI/DH for a couple of slow songs…

Post # 36
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: August 2011

@LoveMySailor1018: Haha, I think it’s different when it’s your S.O. When DH and I were dating, we dragged each other to plenty of stuff. I was also always willing to say, “I love you, but… NO, dear. NO.”

Post # 37
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: August 2011

@PinkMagnolia: This is a competely genuine question – why would someone be hurt by non-dancers? I’m sure as a guest at your wedding, I’d be all, “Whoo-hoo, Pink Magnolia and DH, we are so happy for you!” and be social and congratulate you and whatnot. But… My FH and I wouldn’t be dancing unless forced. And we’d send a lovely gift and be pleasant and gush about how lovely the wedding was and all that jazz. Would we be bad guests just for not dancing? Seriously, I’m now wondering if we’ve offended people at their weddings by circulating and chatting but not dancing.

I never want to be the awful guest that the bride and groom vent about later. 🙂

Post # 38
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

@canubaYes I think it is slightly rude for not dancing at least a couple times. I think guests should participate in whatever event is going on. I’m not saying you should spend the entire night on the dance floor though. I think that the more people dance the more fun it is for the bride and groom and the more it feels like a “party atmosphere”.

I hate shower games, but I participate in them when I go to showers to be nice.

Post # 39
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: August 2011

@PinkMagnolia: I can understand the shower thing – I would never not participate joyfully in shower games or whatever, even if they happen to be the kind that stick in my craw – but I guess I think of that as a planned event, at a specific time, like a eating a meal all together or watching the bride-to-be open gifts. 

Dancing just seems more personal-choice and also not for a small group at a specific time. I agree standing in the corner being sullen or something would be a detractor, and would be a rude thing to do as a guest. I also never seek out a “party” atmosphere at a wedding, and that’s not what we did for our wedding, but I can appreciate that some brides and grooms are going for that.

Thanks for the answer! Always helps to try to see things from another person’s perspective.

ETA: Haha, I’m just amused that we differ so drastically in opinion on dancing, but we totally agree on shower games. 

Post # 40
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: March 2011

@PinkMagnolia:  I don’t mind the slow songs at all… I am a bit awkward still, but it’s not a red-face moment.  Everytime I getted dragged to floor it is during a song that actually requires some dance moves that I just don’t have!  🙂

Post # 41
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

@canuba: I would like people to dance at my wedding, even though I’m not a dancer myself.  However, my priority is that my guests have fun and are comfortable.  I would feel horrible if I found out my guests danced, even though they were uncomfortable with it, just because that’s what I wanted.  

Post # 42
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: August 2011

@Natalieh86: That’s in line with my thoughts on it. Same deal with our photobooth thingy – we planned it, we loved it, we hoped our guests would have fun with it (and that we would get a great, silly album out of it), but some folks were uncomfortable getting their picture taken. I’d rather have them skip it than feel awkward, and some did.

Post # 43
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: March 2012

THANK YOU! I don’t dance, my Fiance CAN’T dance, but still loves to. If he wants to dance at our wedding fine, don’t drag me out there. People are always trying to drage me out on the dance floor at weddings Undecided. But it’s kinda funny, because I cheered in high school where we danced at half-time. But, that’s different. We were all in uniform doing the same moves! 

Post # 44
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: July 2013

@PinkMagnolia:  I agree with you.  You should make an effort.  No one is sitting there critiquing your dancing.  I think those of us who are dancers and stay on the floor all night are obviously having a good time and celebrating.  When I see a couple or a person sitting alone at the table just looking around the room from their seat not talking to anyone, they look lonely.  I try to drag them onto the dance floor to get them out of their funk.

I think what I’m saying is that if you’re up visiting and being social, that’s one thing.  You’re having a good time.  If you’re sitting at the table alone, not talking, checking your phone, or staring off looking bored… well then you’re obviously not enjoying yourself.  Whatever you do, have a good time for at least the sake of the bride and groom.

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