(Closed) Wedding Date

posted 9 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 3
183 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: October 2009

That’s a tough one.  Can you talk to your friend to see what she thinks?  Since it’s a year away, maybe she can make arrangements to make it out to you.  Do you think she’ll be upset that you’re getting married before her?

Post # 4
369 posts
Helper bee

I don’t think she has the rights over any date you want to choose. If you really feel that she may be offended, ask her something like, "How long before/after your wedding would you be comfortable attending my wedding?"

Post # 5
578 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: December 1969

I would talk to her. But it also depends on how close you guys are. If you guys are close and you need/have to have her there you might have to work something out with her. But most important talk to her. But I wouldn’t change my date or my life for her. I don’t mean to sounds mean but it is you and your Fiance wedidng!

Post # 7
578 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: December 1969

Understandable. I would just talk to her about it and tell her how you feel and your concerns but also that you really would like her to come to your wedding. See how it goes and then maybe go from there. Keep us updated!

Post # 8
2641 posts
Sugar bee

Maybe the first thing is to decide when you would like to get married, vs have to get married etc.  If your Fi is being deployed or moving across the country for a job when he graduates, I can see the part where you’d need to get married by a certain date.  If it’s a matter of it’s something you just prefer, then you might want to think about what’s more important.

If you need to get married next July, then what can you do?  It’ll just have to be unfortunate if your friend can’t make it.  If getting married next July is just a preference then you just have to weigh how important the date is compared to having your friend there.  But before you jump the gun, you might want to ask her what she thinks, so you can make a good decision.   If she said July would be to crazy because she’s doing stuff for her own wedding, but would be able to make it in May or October would you concede?  What if she said she couldn’t afford it until the following year?

Sounds like it will have to boil down to:

1. her either having the money and coming

2. not having the money and not coming

3. not having the money and you paying her way

4. not coming because she’s wrapped up with her own wedding or upset that you put your wedding close to hers etc.

5. you move your wedding to accommodate her


Post # 10
751 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2010

just talk to her who knows she just might be supper excited that your both getting hitched in one summer.

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