(Closed) Wedding Date but no proposal

posted 3 years ago in Engagement
Post # 2
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Bumble Beekeeper

Many would say an agreement between two previously married, mature adults to get married and move forward with planning a wedding goes beyond a proposal.

If you want a more traditional proposal–nothing wrong wanting a bit more romance–you’ll have to tell him so. 

Post # 4
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: March 2017

This is what we did. I felt like planning our elopement was a proposal in itself. 

Post # 5
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: May 2017

I would… I’m a lover for all things sentimental and romantic; but I want to marry my man more than spend money on another ring, wait a few months, and then spend more money on a wedding. So I was okay with planning and reserving things before ever having a proposal.

Fortunately, he surprised me and fulfilled my romantic desire with a proposal and then we started planning our wedding 😉

Post # 6
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Bee Keeper

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mrsgaines :  I was gonna say the same thing as PP. There Was a thread here a few months ago similar to your situation and nearly everyone said, “you’re already engaged” even when there was no ring proposal yet. I personally would wait for the proposal before I book vendors and the venue but that’s just me.

Post # 7
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: December 2017 - Lake Louise Canada

There is also nothing stopping you from creating a beautiful event and proposing to him!

Post # 8
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2016

It’s fine to want a traditional proposal, but make sure he is aware. 

It’s also perfectly fine to have a joint discussion deciding you want to be married and to start planning your wedding and booking vendors and have that be your “proposal”. Deciding you both want to get married and start planning makes you engaged. 

Post # 9
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Busy bee

my friends did that and it was the first marriage for them both. They were on a path and both knew it was happening. Venue was booked a little more than a year out. It’s not completely ideal, but they did get married! I’d say if you’re confident, go for it! if you think you’re rolling the dice, maybe talk a bit more. good luck!

Post # 13
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: January 2017

We booked our New Year’s Day venue 2 and a half months before he proposed. We knew we had to plan we’ll in advance since it was a destination wedding on a popular day with all our family having to travel for it.

Post # 14
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Busy bee

My Fiance and I are an older couple as well. He would tell me to go ahead and book appointments to look at venues as well before we were officially engaged, but I personally didnt want to. I wanted to be engaged. I didnt want the staff to ask questions about our engagement and I would have to return the conversation with a “we arent engaged yet.” Again, it was a personal decision and just didnt feel right to me, but you have to do what feels right for you.

Post # 15
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Bumble bee

I booked our venue before the proposal. We are having a destination wedding as well and we saved 20% by booking early. I wasn’t going to wait for a ring and pass up that kind of savings.

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