Wedding Date Choices…& Saturday vs. Sunday weddings?!

posted 2 years ago in Venue
Post # 2
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2019

Obviously I think most guests would prefer a Saturday wedding, just so they can stay as late as they want and not worry about getting up early. However, if I was local to the wedding and it was on a Sunday, I’d still come without many qualms. Especially if you plan on ending the reception at 9:30, I think that’s completely reasonable especially since most of your guests live fairly close.

Post # 3
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Busy Beekeeper

If youre ending the reception at 930 on a sunday I dont think you’ll have too many issues. I might even move it earlier so people can enjoy the afternoon, set time aside that you and Fi can escape during sunset for some pictures 

Post # 4
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Newbee
  • Wedding: June 2019

I agree most guests would prefer the Saturday wedding because of the not having to worry about rising early the next day. I live in Northern NJ and to be honest I haven’t gone to alot of Saturdady weddings recently, I wouldn’t mind the drive down or back up especially if youre ending the reception at that time. It’s not unreasonable, you’re being considerate of your guests. 

Post # 5
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Honey bee

rozannab :  If you want a party/drink/dance atmosphere the way to go is Saturday night. If you are ok with a low key and laid back wedding then do Sunday brunch or lunch. Personally, a Sunday night wedding is ok with me because my work is very flexible and I could just take the next day off but I would think this is not the case for most people.

I have been to 3 Sunday night weddings that were non long weekends and a big chunk of the guests left right after dinner. They did not even wait for the cake cutting and dancing and it was very noticeable that the crowd shrunk after they left. One of the poor brides was practically  begging guests to stay as she had so much planned the rest of the night.

If the $5K is not gonna make a huge difference, think about it, the money you will be paying for the cake, DJ, photobooth etc, only a portion of your guests will be able to enjoy it.  I feel that a part of the money you paid the vendors mentioned will be partially wasted because people left early.

Post # 6
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Buzzing Beekeeper

rozannab :  If you move everything up an hour doesn’t that mean your recption will start at 7:30pm and if you are ending at 9:30pm that means a 2hr reception? So technically you aren’t saving money, you are cutting your reception shorter therefore it is costing less.

To be honest I leave Sunday weddings early or rsvp no if I have to work the next day. As a guest I definitly prefer a late afternoon/evening wedding to be on a Saturday.

Post # 7
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2017

NYC bee here, I’ve found most sunday weddings don’t really have the same party energy unless your core group of guests is ready to party and they set the tone. 

It depends on what you want. 

Post # 9
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Buzzing Beekeeper

rozannab :  So you are moving it back an hour and not up an hour. But doesn’t that mean you will miss the sunset photos (which would be later than 5:55pm)? Or would you be leaving the reception for an hour to take pictures? Because if it is the latter that is kind of strange. 

Post # 11
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

I would love a Sunday brunch wedding compared to a Saturday night wedding. If I was invited to a “typical” wedding on a Sunday night, I’d bail early to get ready for work the next day, kids ready for school the next day, etc.

Post # 12
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: August 2014

I’d definitely prefer a Saturday wedding as a guest, or a Sunday brunch wedding. I dread Sunday evening weddings, honestly. That being said, November in NJ could be iffy. If you go that route, you need to be ok with the indoor option as the weather is pretty unpredictable. I’d consider a Sunday brunch wedding as a compromise. 

Post # 13
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: June 2017

rozannab :  There’s an unwritten rule that if you have a Sunday wedding, then it should be a midday/brunch wedding. No one wants to party on a worknight. I JUST went to one of these – and EVERY. SINGLE. PERSON. was whispering behind the couple’s back about “omg who has a wedding on a Sunday night. We have to work tomorrow, ugh.” Let’s just say that despite the DJ and open bar, there wasn’t much partying going on and most people left right after dinner. It was pretty lame. There’s a reason why your Sunday wedding is 5k cheaper…

If you want to do a Sunday wedding – that’s fine. But it’s a daytime affair, NOT a nighttime affair.

Post # 14
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: August 2018

rozannab :  I’ve never been to a Sunday wedding but some friends of mine have and they always complain about how incovenient it is. 

If I had a good friend getting married on a Sunday, I would take Monday off of work and be ready to party but I probably wouldn’t take work off for someone I wasn’t super close to. 

So, like others have said- expect people to decline, or leave before the party really gets started. 

Post # 15
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Sugar bee

What are your guests expected to do during the 45 minute gap between your ceremony and cocktail hour?

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