Post # 31
oceangirl40 : i was one of the people who just had to attend a Sunday night (well actually it was Memorial Day so it was a Monday night, but holiday Monday is the equivalent to typical Sunday night) wedding who was bitching and grumbling. Normally, i agree with you – an invitation is not a summons and you can just choose not to attend. But there are some cases where you don’t REALLY have that choice – at least not without totally destroying a friendship. My husband was the best man. It would have been pretty shitty and friendship-ruining for him to say “your work night wedding is inconvenient so I’m not going to come”. And the same goes for all the groomsmen in the party (all of whom are the best of college friends and have all been in each other’s weddings). Was there a gun to any of our heads? No, of course not. But there is a very strong sense of obligation there to attend this wedding that we would have certainly declined if it were someone else. And I’m sure a lot of family feels a similar sense of obligation. Point being, it’s over simplifying things to say “if you don’t like Sunday weddings, just don’t go.” Oftentimes there’s an obligation for people to attend a weddings based on their relationship to the couple unless there are extenuating circumstances which truly prevent it.
Post # 32
I’m a wedding photographer and generally speaking, Sunday weddings are way more low key. Only you can decide if saving the $5k is worth it to have a quiet wedding. More than likely, with most of your guests being local they won’t stay late at all and typically the “party” atmosphere never takes off on Sunday weddings. No one wants to dance/drink until 10 or 11pm and then have to drive home, get ready for bed, and get up for work early the next day. Is it your day? Yes of course. But the ceremony is for YOU, the reception is a thank you to your guests for coming to celebrate your marriage. Why make their “thank you” complicated and inconvenient.
I always tells couples considering it that the money you save won’t mean much but when all your guests are leaving early and you’ve spent money on a cake, bar, DJ, etc and no one is around to enjoy it.
Post # 33
Since everyone is quite local most people will likely be ok with it. Just prepare for the fact that a lot of people will leave straight after dinner and there likely won’t be much drinking/dancing/party-type-celebrating.
If you’re happy with a low key, early ending wedding, then I’d say go for it.
Post # 34
As other PPs have mentioned, Sunday nights on a holiday weekend are ideal (so for Oct: Columbus Day). Sunday weddings are common in Jewish and Orthodox faiths anyways. $5k is a lot of money, and you are likely to save even more with your other vendors.
As long as your VIPs are ok, then I’d do it. Most of your guests are local/localish anyways.
Post # 35
rozannab : Would Friday wedding be an option for you at all? Typically Friday weddings also come with a saving compared to Saturday, but at least guests don’t have to go to work the next day so you can still keep the party atomosphere.
Post # 36
We’re doing a Sunday wedding, primarily for religious reasons. I’m a little nervous about people deciding last minute to not attend or leaving early, but we didn’t really have a choice.
Our current plan is a late afternoon ceremony, followed by cocktails, dinner, then dancing and cake. We plan to have the festivities end by 9 pm or so, though.
Post # 37
We ended up going with Saturday, november 2nd 2019! 🙂 thanks for all of the help!