Post # 1
Hello Everyone. I’m new here. My fiance and I have been together for 8 years and engaged for 5 years. We have finally pushed ourselves to plan the wedding 🙂 We were hoping for the end of June but it booked up super fast. We are getting married July 12, 2012. I am excited to finally get married. But this one little thing keeps bothering me… that day is only 6 days away from our sons birthday. (he’ll be 2) I feel like we are somehow taking away from his day. And feel like in the future we’ll have scheduling conflicts for an anniversary date/birthday party. I’ve already told people and I’m sure rescheduling would be a huge mess. But when I think about it my heart kind of aches. I tried to tell myself its the best month to celebrate our relationship because its the same as our sons birthday (& he is the best thing thats ever happened to us). But I still worry about it. Any advice or words of wisdom would certainly be appreciated. Worrying about this has really gotten in the way of me being excited about the wedding.
Post # 3
You could make it a big day for him as well. Instead of having a Groom’s Cake, why not give him a Birthday Cake where everybody at the wedding would sing happy birthday and he gets to blow out the candles – I’m sure he’d love it! Also I wouldn’t stress so much about only 6 days difference between the dates. If you ever decide to go away for your anniversary you could go a week before ad return a couple of days AFTER your anniversary and then you have plenty of time free to help your son celebrate his special day.
Post # 4
I think as long as you make it special for him (like the birthday cake) you’re fine! I also think its really important to make sure he gets a separate celabration later (like on his actual birthday). My birthday is a week before christmas and my parents did an amazing job of separating it from Christmas so I felt special. I think tahts super important as you go on in your futre.
I dont think it will be a long term problem as my best friend was born on her parent’s anniversary and they have always worked around it. I also have friends that got married the day between their birthdays and so treat it as a whole week of celebrations. As he gets older you could come up with a cute name to call the week… like Family Party Week or something
Post # 5
Is your son’s birthday the week before or after? As in, will you be on honeymoon for his birthday?!
Honestly i think it would be fine to celebrate his brithday another day anyway.. if he’s two i’m sure he’ll just be excited that its come around!!
Post # 6
His birthday is after. We are just having a small wedding on the beach with our parents and brothers attending. It’s our vacation/honeymoon. That we will spend with our family & our little guy. We’ll probably have the wedding night to ourselves.
Thanks everyone, I think we can definately work around it. I don’t him to feel left out but don’t want to put our mommy & daddy time on the back burner. I think we’ll go to the aquarium while we are there for an early birthday celebrating since there will be family from out of town there that we won’t get to see the day of his birthday.
Post # 7
You just make both days special. We have ours colse together and it hasn’t ever been any problem. You need to let that go just make his birthday special every year and it will be fine. It eeally is no big deal, your over worrying! 🙂
Post # 8
- Wedding: July 2012 - Baltimore Museum of Industry
I think you’re over worrying this a bit. My nephews’ birthdays were almost always celebrated on weekends, when more family and friends could be there, with a cupcake or small cake on the actual day. And if you want to do a trip for a future anniversary, you could do the weekend before, for example.