(Closed) Wedding date close to that of your BM/friends?

posted 8 years ago in Bridesmaids
Post # 3
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2011

my wedding is may 14th and my Maid/Matron of Honor (i am her Maid/Matron of Honor too)’s wedding is june 11th. i think its fine to have it close. as long as its not like a week apart. talk to her about it 🙂

Post # 4
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Wannabee
  • Wedding: December 2010

My maid of honor is getting married Nov 13th and I’m getting married Dec 1.  We talked about it and we’re both cool with it.  When I get married, she’ll actually be my matron of honor at that point. 🙂

Just talk to your friend about it.  I’m sure she’ll be supportive.

Post # 5
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Buzzing bee

This is absolutely fine.  As long as you are more than a week apart there won’t be any problems.  She doesn’t get a whole season.  If I were you.. I personally would pick the august date just because I would feel better about picking a date AFTER her rather than before.. but you don’t have to do that.

Post # 6
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Blushing bee

My wedding is Nov. 6 and I am maid of honor in my friend’s wedding on Oct. 2nd. We haven’t had any trouble whatsoever.. it’s actually been loads of fun planning side by side.

Post # 8
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2011

so many of my friends have gotten engaged this past year that if i tried to plan too much around their dates, we’d be getting married in like 2013. our wedding will be 3 months after one of my close friend’s wedding, and a month after another friend’s. i’m just grateful we all didn’t go after the same weekend.

Post # 9
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: January 2011

i got asked to be a bridesmaid in a wedding that is exactly 1 month after us. i had to say no because of a few reasons:

1. the wedding is in chicago and we live in texas. it’s not like i would be just driving down the road

2. we are taking a 10 day honeymoon and wont be back in the country until about 17 days before her wedding

3. we are having an “after-wedding” shower (long story, haha) a week before her wedding.

my point is that i knew it would be too much for me to do all of that, so i said that i didn’t think i could do it. she was annoyed, but understood (i think..). if your friend says yes, i would try to be understanding that she may flake out on some things because shes busy with her own wedding.

Post # 10
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2010

just do what you want to do…I am a Bridesmaid or Best Man 2 weeks before mine, and we have 3 weddings in the two weekends before the wedding. Just forces you to get stuff done early! (and we worked around the 9 weddings besides our that we had this year between June and October)

Post # 11
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Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: July 2010

As a bride you get one day.  Not a week, not a month, not a season.  Your friend has no right to be upset about any day you pick except her own (and if her date was the ONLY date that would work for you and your Fiance, she should also understand that).

Pick whatever date works best for you and your Fiance.

Post # 12
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2010

Your friend – just like every other bride and groom – gets one day.  Having your wedding a month or two before hers is perfectly fine!  Good luck!

Post # 13
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Blushing bee

I’m the Maid/Matron of Honor in a friend’s wedding that is in late February.  My wedding is in early May.  Sometimes I worry that she is annoyed with me talking about my wedding so much given that hers is sooner, but largely it has been great because we are both going through everything at the same time.  I also like that our weddings are really different – otherwise it might feel like we are “copying” off of each other for lack of better work.  Her help and support (and advice!) has been invaluable to me, and hopefully she feels the same way.  I really think the same would be true even if our wedding were only a month apart! 

I think the harder thing is if a family member had a wedding closer in date to yours.  Even if a family member’s wedding is, say, six months before yours, it gets a little difficult becuase until that wedding is over, it is really hard for other family members (including parents) to get excited/help with your wedding.  That’s just my two cents!

Post # 14
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: December 2009

I think it’s very nice of you to be so considerate.  I would talk to your friend and see what she says.  We all say we get a day, not a week/month/year…but let’s face us, some gals might get irked by a Maid/Matron of Honor planning a wedding so close to hers. 

Post # 15
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Blushing bee

I got married 2 weeks before one of my BMs, and I was a Bridesmaid or Best Man for her as well. It was a total non-issue. We only have about 10 mutual friends who live out of town and had to make the trip. The only thing we did was not ask or expect too much of one another because we understood what the other was going through in terms of time management. Communication is key.

Post # 16
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2010

I think it is fine to have it close but i would ask her if it is okay. I have had some friends with drama over situations like this but honestly in my opinion i think you are fine as long as it is after your friends wedding. And usually a month is a decent amount of time to have in between. 

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