(Closed) Wedding Date conflict….

posted 6 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 3
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

oh no! Have you considered a Friday wedding?

Post # 4
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: December 2016

@Ethans.mommie: Omg this is a tough one! Is the other wedding of a best friend as well? I know they are really important but I would book it. WHat if you can’t afford a different month without the discounts? The discounts are the main reason I would. If there is a way to still get a good deal maybe in october? Research all your options and go from there. Would you still be happy with the venue and photographer if they were not in attendance, or are they more important than the venue and photographer you want.

Post # 5
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: November 1999

That’s a tough one. I think you have to assume that the people invited to weddings already scheduled will attend those instead of yours. It sucks, but everyone will not be able to make it. If they are really important to you and you think the day will be missing something if they are not there, then reschedule. 

If not, go ahead with the wedding. There are only so many weekends in the year and it’s inevitable that someone important will miss your wedding. 

Post # 6
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: November 1999

y don’t you just move it to another date that fits everyone?

Post # 7
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

@Crabbabs:  I agree. That certainly sucks.  I mean, you don’t want to have to plan your wedding around 1 couple but you certainly want them there.  Have you talked to your friends about it?  Maybe the other wedding will be close enough to yours that they can do both (I’ve gone to 2 weddings in one day before).

Post # 8
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: October 2010

This is a totally crappy situation.  I was in a similar boat as my venue had only 2 possible dates open that we could choose from, and I had just found out my college girlfriend was expecting right around our preferred date.  I really agonized over this – but I took the advice of another close friend of mine to do what worked best for us.

I was so sad my friend wasn’t there, but our families and our wedding party were all there and that was the most important thing.  I also had two other friends who were unable to attend due to pregnancy; there will always be something that prevents some people from coming, no matter when you schedule the wedding.

If the best man can attend, then you need to do choose that date if that’s what is best for you. 

Post # 9
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: November 1999

Fiance and I have done back to back weddings (one on Friday, one on Saturday) in two different cities about 2 hours apart. It was a long weekend, but we were able to celebrate with both couples. Fiance was in both weddings. 

Post # 10
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: September 2013

Not everyone that wants to be there will/can be there no matter what date you pick. I’d go with the November date.

Post # 11
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: November 2011

My SIL is having a short engagement and my family and I had planned a vacation over a year in advance. I told her about our vacation plans the minute I knew she was thinking of a June wedding, but of course, she picked the weekend we will be on vacation. I’m not attending her wedding since I already planned my family vacation well in advance, but my Darling Husband is now not going on the vacation. I’m not a happy camper, but it is what it is….so bottom line. Your friends probably won’t be happy, but you’re the bride and it’s your wedding pick whatever date you want.

Post # 12
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

Thats tough and all but I would try to be curteous of the other wedding because he’s your FI’s BEST FRIEND and GODFATHER and they sort of have other engagements already so that’s not fair to him…

a friday wedding is a GREAT option I think! He’ll save on renting a tux twice as well! it sounds like a great weekend to me! 😀

Post # 13
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: March 2012

I would either have the wedding on Friday or Sunday. This way they could attend.

Post # 15
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

we are doing a friday wedding and when i suggested it to friends and family they had no problem taking at least a half day to make it a long weekend (especially in the summer)

we are having about 80 guests. ceremony at 4pm with reception to follow at same location

good luck making a decision! 

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