Post # 1
We originally planned to have an October 2016 wedding.
About 12 years ago, my FH’s dear sister passed away from cancer. The anniversary of her death is October 8. Without realizing that specific date, I had thought it would work out well to have the wedding Columbus day weekend, since it would give more traveling time for my side of the family and for out of town guests. We’ll be getting married near where his immediate family lives (his extended family also lives in that area).
It is important to my FH that we get married “sometime” after the anniversary date, to create new, happier memories for him and his family following the anniversary date.
It turns out that in 2016, October 8 is Columbus day weekend. I know FH’s mother very much prefers we do not marry on that weekend, which I understand and respect.
I just don’t know what to do now – help me brainstorm?
Post # 2
I’d definitely respect their wishes — and just come up with another weekend date —
If you send the STD our early in advance – then those who are coming from out of town will have ample enough time to take off an extra day “if necessary”.
Good luck Bee!
Post # 3
Get married another weekend in October on a Saturday (if possible). The people traveling can take a day off of work and travel on that Friday or just travel Saturday morning and leave on Sunday. I understand wanting it to be convenient, but you obviously can’t choose that weekend or wait another year. People who want to come to the wedding will come.
Post # 4
Pick a new day, and make sure if you have a lot of out of town guests, the word gets out. Save the Dates are perfect for this.
Post # 5
Do the weekend after that. I know there will be less time to travel and all but you obviously can’t get married on the anniversary of the sister’s death!
Post # 6
Most people don’t get Columbus day off so unless a large proportion of your guests work in banks or government, it’s not going to be a 3-day weekend anyway. So as PPs suggested, just pick another weekend, nbd. Congratulations!
Post # 7
No one that I know gets Columbus day off so scheduling it for the next weekend should not be a problem. Some people prefer not to go to weddings during a holiday weekend anyway as hotel rooms and such are typically more expensive.
Post # 8
I know it stinks to change it, but look at it like this: Very few people end up marrying on holiday weekends, and their guests all make it there. Your intentions to give your guests an extra day was great, but it is far more important to change the date in this case.
I think in the long run you’ll be happy you complied.
Post # 9
Thanks bees, you’ve all been very helpful
Post # 10
In this case, I definitely think it’s a good idea to take October 8 out of the running completely. Also, I don’t know about you, but I have hardly any friends and relatives that get Columbus Day off of work. Unless your family is full of teachers, it won’t actually be a 3-day weekend for most people.
Post # 11
Obviously pick another weekend in the month besides that of Oct 8th. DO you really have your heart set for October? If not and you just wanted a fall season wedding, is it possible to have it end of September or early November?
Post # 12
I would respect their wishes and pick another weekend. And not everyone gets off for Columbus day (actually I know very few outside of those who work for the Government who do get off) so that does not make travelling easier for some.
Post # 13
We lost a family member on October 8th as well. I knew that it would upset my family to have it on that date, so we are getting married on the 22nd. As long as you have it on a Saturday, it should be fine 🙂
Post # 14
why not just do the wedding on Sunday, Oct 9? You still get the Columbus Day weekend, and Sunday’s are cheaper.