- 5 years ago
I am so upset and beyond frustrated. My fiance and I got engaged almost two months ago (early Sep). We currently live in Nevada, but want to get married in GA because that is where I am from and where most of my family and friends live. It is also where the two of us met. My fiance is from India and his parents and most friends still live there. We also thought that it would be a good location in the US because there is a major airport there (Atlanta). We will be having two ceremonies- an Indian ceremony on Friday and a Christian ceremony on Saturday. Here comes the date issue:
My one brother is getting married next May, and my other brother is getting married next October. So we are left with the following:
January- April is too soon to plan
May- my first brother’s wedding
June- no dates are the venues we looked at
July, August, September- my fiance’s parents won’t agree to because they think it is too hot in Atlanta
October- my brother’s wedding
November- Only date available is Nov. 18 (weekend before thanksgiving)
December- Only date available is Dec. 2 (weekend after thanksgiving)
The venue I like has July 15 available and the venue he likes (for the Indian ceremony) has July 14 available. Initially we both thought this would work- both locations are indoors completely. However, when we told his parents they completely disagreed and said it would be way too hot for them and their family and friends.
Obviously I am extremely disappointed that this date will not work for them. After almost two months of mulling over various dates and venues and finally finding one that worked for both locations, I was so let down when they said no. My fiance is also now agreeing with them that it will be too hot. I really don’t think this should be an issue- the ceremonies are indoors and we would not be walking to any location. Plus, it is hotter in India during July than GA.
I am at such a loss right now and want to shut down completely and not even have a wedding. It’s bad enough that both brothers are getting married already, which makes picking a date so limiting. I know that I could look for another venue, but once you find one you love, it is really hard to settle. I realize that the wedding is about something greater than the venue, but it is still a special day that you should only do once and I want to be happy with my decisions.
I realize I could look at doing a Saturday/ Sunday combo instead of Friday/Saturday, but even then, my options are limited to June, and basically November 4 weekend. I also don’t know that they would fully agree to June, as it is not much cooler in June than July.
The other option is moving the wedding to 2018.. which really sucks- I am already 28 and my fiance is 34- neither of us really want/need a long engagement. We have been together for 5 years already.