(Closed) Can't agree on a date for the wedding

posted 5 years ago in Family
Post # 2
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2016

I’ve lived in Atlanta all my life and it’s definitely cooled down by September. Its certainly not fall weather yet, but its honestly not that hot/humid anymore, especially if its an evening wedding. Seriously, though- if its indoors, its not a problem and you should go with the dates you want and not worry about whether or not they say its too hot. Its not like they’re going to be outside. Don’t delay your wedding because they don’t want to feel warm.

Post # 3
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Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: August 2016

If everything would be indoors, I don’t see how having it in July would be a problem. I assume there is air conditioning? I don’t think your parents are being reasonable, especially considering how limited your date options are.

Post # 5
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Honey bee

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elizabeth1389 :  I have been to ATL before and stayed there 2 summers and I have to agree, it can be pretty brutal, nasty and humid outdoors. But then again, you said everything wil be indoors. Are you sure there will be absolutely no photos taken outside or haven’t over looked any wedding activities that might be potentially done outside? When is your brother’s wedding in October? I was gonna say Nov 18th (as long as it’s not super close to your brother’s wedding and not a lot of people are traveling between yours and his wedding dates) or Dec 2nd. If not, can you move it to early 2018? If you think about it, Jan or Feb 2018 is only a month or two away from Dec 2017. Perhaps those 2 months just sound so far away because it’s “2018”. 

Post # 7
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2018 - Vineyard Lake

If you are already considering November why not push it out 4 months to March? I guess you have to figure out what is more important to you? The venue? The date? The weather?

The only thing I can think of for your future in laws & the weather is that they want yo be able to take in the sites either before or after the wedding.

 

Edit* I will be 42 & Fiance will be 43 on our wedding & our engagement will be right around 4 years…

Post # 8
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Honey bee

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elizabeth1389 :  An engagement of 18 months sounds fine! I think it’s actually a perfect amount of time. I have been engaged much longer than 18 months up to now and we still don’t have a date! LOL Your ages are fine in my opinion. If you go with February like you’re considering, you can also have the option of doing it over a 3-day weekend, President’s long weekend which is Feb 16, 17, 18 that year. You have a choice to do your 2 ceremonies either Fri/Sat or Sat/Sun then guests can leave Monday, Feb 19th. I personally don’t have a problem attending long weekends but some people do. Mostly from what I have read here it’s Memorial Day, 4th of July, Labor Day and Thanksgiving. It’s pretty rare that I hear about President’s weekend being a problem. Think about potential financial benefits too from your venue because that month is off season for most places. For example, the venue we are looking at is $20 less per person and no minimums needed compared to April-Oct weddings. 

Post # 9
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: April 2017

I say pick what date you want and go for it. I had a similar situation – my partner is Thai and we live here, and are choosing to have the wedding here (Buddhist ceremony in the morning followed by Western style ceremony in the afternoon). Picking a date was very difficult – I work in a school and can only get time off in April and October. April is the peak of hot season, in October it can be very rainy. The thing that made us choose was that my siblings have some time off university in April, but not in October. That means our wedding is going to be in very uncomfortable weather – as my parner said ‘People don’t get married in April’. But, we are. The venue suggested doing the ceremonies indoors as it will be so hot, and then at sunset we will have dinner and a party on the beach. I had people suggest I just do it in another month and try to get a couple of days off work – but I don’t just want a couple of days off work when all my family and friends will be here. 

Post # 10
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2015

Surely India is hotter?!

Post # 11
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Helper bee

Yeah, even thought your wedding is indoors maybe they think his family will want to explore the area since they are flying such a long way? If that’s the case I can see why they would want it during cooler weather. I’m in SC and during this past summer I felt like I couldn’t even walk 30 mins without feeling completely miserable and like I was about to pass out…and I’m in my early 20s. If his parents are older they might not go out very long during the summer months.

So why not the date in December? That seems to be far away from everything else.

Post # 12
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Helper bee

OMG i had the exact problem!!!!!! may was too soon for my fiance, june july augusy my mom said it was too hot for my family to come all the way from israel and they would be sweating even though its inside!!!! speteber jewish holidays, october – yom kuppur (jewish holidays) so we settled on NOVEMBER!!! just take november. the summer in gorgia is really hot.

Post # 13
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2017

It’s your wedding, pick when YOU and YOUR FIANCE want to have it. You absolutely don’t have to avoid a date because some family members have preconcieved notions about what the weather may be. That decision isn’t up to them, no matter how much they spend on attending. 

Post # 14
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Busy Beekeeper

Maybe I’m ignorant, but doesn’t it get pretty hot in India too? I grew up in Atlanta and honestly months like June and September are a crapshoot. Yeah it could be 90 degrees…it could also be 75 and gorgeous. And if you’re having the wedding inside I don’t see why it matters at all.

I totally feel you though with the stress of planning a wedding when your fiance’s entire family lives in a foreign country. I am dealign with the same thing and it’s giving me an ulcer lol. Good luck!

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