(Closed) Wedding date dilemma between BFF’s

posted 7 years ago in Emotional
Post # 3
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: August 2012

You said that at the time of the original date choice that neither of you were engaged. Now that you are engaged I have to ask if she is engaged too? If she is not engaged yet and waiting on a proposal I don’t think she should be asking you to move around your date. Even so, I don’t think having a few weeks between weddings is too horrible. The only problem would be that it might put any mutual friends that you have in a bind financially for gifts or if you both want them to stand up.

Post # 4
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: April 2010

it’s always said, you get one day, not a month or year for your wedding. three weeks apart is fine!

Post # 5
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: February 2012

If she is not engaged yet, it’s not really fair of her to demand you pick a date around her. What is she doesn’t get engaged this year?

That said, if it’s looking very likely she will be engaged soon (or is already engaged), and since you are her BFF… would a date in August be reasonable? 3 weeks is doable, but it might be hard for people to attend both weddings so close together. It’s your call.

Post # 6
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

I see both your sides. I would be concerned from her point of view because with your wedding coming up first, you will be busy planning your own wedding and then be on your honeymoon so you probably won’t be able to help her out if she needs help with any details.

Do you have any mutual friends? I would worry if you had out of town friends who would probably have to choose which wedding to go to.

But your date has significance, so I totally understand why you picked the date you did. Honestly, if it were me, I would try to pick another date because right now neither of you is going to be able to focus on being the Maid/Matron of Honor at each others weddings because you will have your own weddings to plan for. If no other date will work, she is your best friend and she will understand if you pick that date.

Post # 8
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: September 2011

My best friend and I are getting married a month apart. It’s getting a little crazy, but it’s totally doable and nothing to worry about! Go ahead and get the date you want!

Post # 9
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: April 2012

You’re her best friend and she said she has a problem with it. Do you really need to know what other people think? End of story in my book. Even if its TOTALLY irrational, she’s still your bff.  Plus being a Maid/Matron of Honor is a lot of work for both you and her, and if you’re each the other’s it’s just going to be a stress fest. I know it feels like the date you’re fixated on is the only date in the world, but you’ll grow to love another one just as much. I promise, I had to chance mine too! 

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