(Closed) Wedding Date Ettiquette??

posted 8 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 3
7490 posts
Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: October 2010

Well, my first thought was, many schools are in session before Labor day weekend – so you  may want to take that off your list of reasons.  I think it may make a difference as to whether the traveling people will be driving or flying?  I don’t think it is too close to the holidays.  I don’t know- honestly i think I would stick with November if it were me.

Post # 4
110 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: August 2011

I think you should pick whatever date you want and works best for you and your Fiance. Its not particularly snowing in early-mid November, certainly probably won’t be a blizzard and the people that will want to be there, will be. That’s just my opinion

Post # 5
4137 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: May 2011

veteran’s day is not a holiday for most people, but you don’t have to have a holiday weekend wedding for people to travel. is upstate NY really that snowy in early november? i say go with what you want. people important to you will make their way there no matter what.

Post # 6
572 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: December 1969

Your guests are going to have an issue (traveling, scheduling, etc.) with whatever date you decide, so do whatever YOU and Fiance want.

Post # 7
3709 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2011

How many of the invitees have kids? My daughter missed a couple of days of school for my sister’s wedding and it wasn’t a big deal. However, some families with kids wouldn’t dream of having their kids miss school.

Veteran’s Day is not a holiday at the company where I work but school was out…lol….go figure. I don’t think it’s going to be possible to find a date that everyone loves, so I would suggest making a list of your “key” people and finding a date that they all are good with. Everybody else can get in where they fit in.


Post # 8
5670 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: August 2010

It could snow or it could now snow. I say pick the date you want but just be prepared if you need to make some last minute adjustments. My friend really wanted a winter wedding and picked January in New England and all she heard about was the possibility of snow and then it was a beautiful day and many of her family members traveled over from Italy without a problem.

Post # 9
20 posts
  • Wedding: June 2012

November 12 would be really, really early for a real big snowstorm.  People up here will be able to travel in anything other than that.  I would go for the November date!


Post # 10
1876 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: October 2014

Keep your November date!

1) Novemeber isn’t that snowy upstate

2) Labor Day would be much more inconvient. Flight are MUCH more expensive, and eveything else will cost more during this time. Also, people generally use this weekend to get ready for the school year, or have an end-of-summer party.

Post # 11
85 posts
Worker bee
  • Wedding: November 2010

Sounds like October may be a good compromize.  What about Columbus Day Weekend?  I had 75% of my guests coming from out-of-town and we did not have it on a holiday weekend.  While ideally it would be nice to not take a day off of school or work, if people want to come to the wedding that will not stop them. 

The problem with Labor Day weekend is that many people have yearly committments/plans that they like to stick to (such as going to the beach).  People may prefer to attend the wedding on a different weekend so that they can save their holiday weekend for their own committments.  

Snow is a real issue.  You do not want to start stressing the week before your wedding because you are worried about a huge snowstorm preventing half of your guests from showing up.  But, as long as you are willing to take that risk then those upstate NYers will welcome a trip to warmer weather in November.

Post # 12
9029 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2011

You should pick the date you want BUT you should keep in mind the guests ability to come. If you choose a date thats difficult for people and alot of them dont show up, it will be kinda sucky for you. So keep the guests in mind while making this decision.

Post # 13
6015 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: March 2012

Yeah why not try Columbus day.  More kids have off from school for that then veterns day and snow won’t be a problem.  You can still use your colors.

Post # 14
608 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2011

Pick a venue and then your date if you haven’t yet.  It would be a bummer to set a date only to find out your dream venue isn’t available.  Either are fine, just pick what you want. 

Post # 15
1927 posts
Buzzing bee

I would actually suggest staying away from Veteran’s Day.  Most people don’t get it off but since it’s technically a holiday weekend flights and hotel rooms are likely to be more expensive for your guests.  I would pick a non holiday weekend in Late Oct/Early Nov.  And I agree with the others that a huge snow storm is unlikely that early in the winter (unless they are upstate in Buffalo or Rochester where the snow can get pretty intense).

Post # 16
6998 posts
Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: February 2011

NC represent! haha

I loooove the fall in the carolinas and november it tricky! like this year we had some days where it was 40 and some where it was 75. but wayyy better than september! my Future Sister-In-Law got married the end of august in the carolinas and Fiance and I still talk about how freaking HOT it was.

i say go with november! people in NY are used to snow and can usually travel unless there is some crazy storm

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