Wedding date headache. when to pick?!

posted 2 months ago in Guests
Post # 16
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2019

I agree with everyone else that none of those dates are preferable, but I’d prefer the Sunday if I had to choose. At least that is a day that most people have off, whereas on the day before Thanksgiving, many people still have to work because it is a weekday.

Post # 17
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Helper bee

I suggest the Dec 1st date, both other dates will have horrendous traffic during those times

Post # 18
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: December 2009

As a friend, none of those dates.  I wouldn’t travel over that weekend for anyone other than family…If it were for a sibling, Thanksgiving Eve.  

Post # 19
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2016

In looking in the 3 dates provided, I would go with Dec 1st. the hustle and bustle for Thanksgiving is generally over by that time… I would be worried to do it on Thanksgiving Eve, many people are preparing stuff for Thanksgiving…So I feel like that would be a little screwy… and maybe stress people out.. since they are trying to get stuff ready for the holiday and attend a wedding… I am not going to tell you to do a different week/weekend cause it’s obvious those are the available dates for you.

Hopefully it all works out, but go with the HUBBY on this one!

Post # 20
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Sugar bee

I think all three dates are awful as all three will interfere with Thanksgiving weekend, cost your guests a fortune to travel, and traffic will be awful. Have you ever traveled by car in/out of NYC/Long Island/New Jersey on the Tuesday before and the Sunday after Thanksgiving? It is a bloody nightmare. I would rather get a root canal than sit in that traffic again.

Also, please don’t ask people to work on Thanksgiving. It’s super rude and entitled.

Post # 21
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Sugar bee

jaydeeplatinum :  have you ever driven in that area the Sunday after TG?

Post # 22
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: November 2016

Of the three dates, I would choose Sunday, December 1st, but like PP, I would not travel to see my family for Thanksgiving and then go to a wedding in a different location.  I also would not forego celebrating with my family to be local. 

Post # 23
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: June 2019

What wedding venue is crazy enough to allow thanksgiving weddings? Definitely December 1st. I wouldn’t even bother with the other two dates.

Post # 24
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2019

None of the above

Post # 25
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870 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2017

zl27 :  omg. I once sat for 2 hrs waiting to cross the GWB on the Sunday after Thanksgiving. Traffic is an absolute nightmare on that day.

OP: your Long Island guests are correct for complaining about the distance. It could literally take them 3-4 hrs to get home.

Please consider another weekend.

Post # 28
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2017

sweetwedd6711 :  Folks who went out of town are trying to get back into the city. It’s a nightmare and a reason why I will never go to my family’s for thankgiving or I come back on Saturday.

Post # 29
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Bee Keeper

sweetwedd6711 :  Please be prepared for and not offended by a lot of declines, Bee. It’s the busiest, most expensive weekend for travel in the US and people who may have been required to have that Thurs/Fri off may not be able to take that Monday off work. If you can’t wait, then you can’t wait, but you also have to accept that some people may not be able to attend. Just because you were able to make it work for others does not mean they will be able to make it work for you. 

Post # 30
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: June 2019

I don’t get why you can’t have a winter indoor wedding.

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