Wedding date headache. when to pick?!

posted 2 months ago in Guests
Post # 32
101 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: June 2019

sweetwedd6711 :  yeah I realize snow happens. Probably because I’m from the Midwest and snow isn’t a big deal. 

Post # 33
870 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2017

As far as winter wedding issues, snow is far more likely in Jan/Feb in the NYC area. Is there another date in early Dec that might work?


Post # 34
6663 posts
Bee Keeper

Because I’m procrastinating on a work deadline I just checked flights that weekend–double what they usually are and some are already sold out…if you are committed to that weekend, OP, I’d let your out-of-town guests know asap. 

Post # 35
3277 posts
Sugar bee

sweetwedd6711 :  traffic on the Sunday after TG is horrible. One year, it took me over 4 hours to get from Great Neck to Manhattan.

Post # 36
923 posts
Busy bee

Those are all horribly inconsiderate dates – and incredibly expensive to travel that week. You’re potentially asking some guests to travel twice in the busiest travel week of the year – once to their family for Thanksgiving and a second time to your wedding. Even if it’s all car travel, they’re going to be sitting in bridges and tunnels forever.


If your religion is that important to you, consider modeling it by sacrificing your “DREAM” venue for other venues that have more date options that are more considerate to your guests. 

Post # 37
6806 posts
Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: April 2016

sweetwedd6711 :  Wait…I didn’t realize you were talking about THIS year. I assumed this was all about Thanksgiving 2020. Bee, your guests might already be out of luck. Flights, hotels…the price of traveling over the Thanksgiving holiday is already more expensive than any other time of the year and you’re going to be giving them little more than 3 months to sort it all out. I’d seriously rethink this date if I were you Bee. 

Post # 38
1028 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2019

I wouldn’t ask your guests to travel on the most expensive and time-consuming travel weekend of the year.

I’m from Toronto (Canada) and we don’t even usually have snow that stays on the ground in December. I can’t imagine it being so much worse in New York in early December.

Post # 39
1575 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2018 - Location

Find another weekend.

Post # 40
9044 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper

Wouldn’t the easiest solution be to find another venue? You are basically saying to your guests a venue is more important to you than them, their finances and their time.

Post # 41
6597 posts
Bee Keeper

Forgive my ignorance of your faith, but can’t you have the wedding after sundown on Saturday? And sunset in December in your area is like 4:30 pm? So you could have an evening saturday wedding OR a daytime sunday wedding. I would strongly suggest picking a different weekend if you want the wedding THIS year, and look at both days.

Post # 42
1747 posts
Bumble bee

llevinso :  This. 

OP, short notice for a holiday weekend to the East Coast when most of your guests are traveling? That sounds like a disaster. 

Post # 43
1622 posts
Bumble bee

jellybellynelly :  Here is a snip from the web that explains:

Wedding ceremonies are not allowed on Shabbat, a biblically mandated day of rest. Technically, weddings can be held on Saturday night after the Shabbat concludes at nightfall, but no preparations for the wedding whatsoever may begin until nightfall. This makes Saturday night weddings extremely impractical during the winter, and virtually impossible during the long days of the summer months.

Of course it depends on how religious the particular person is, and whether they can find a Rabbi that would participate. Even if they don’t observe Shabbat in traditional ways, and can find a Rabbi to perform the ceremony, the Thanksgiving holiday and the location of the venue are huge impediments for the guests.

Post # 44
465 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2019

If it’s only 3 months away your guests may already have other plans. I’m also on the east coast and I’d just wait until April if I were you. 

Post # 45
522 posts
Busy bee

I just looked at the flights and they at all above 400$ and mostly 500$ from LA to EWR. That’s a lot of money for families specially since right after thanksgiving is Christmas and New Years and all holidays cost money with gifts and traveling to see family. Unless your family is well off and you know money is not an object for them I would just pick a different venue for a different date. In fact why not have a winter theme wedding outside if you are afraid of snow. Usually in that area it snowed mostly in feb, March. Or you could have a smaller destination wedding in warm location like Florida specially since most of your guest are flying anyway and I have found flights as cheap as 70$ from EWR to Orlando or Tampa airports

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