Post # 1
I just wanted some thoughts. My very significant other and I are planning a wedding for August 2012. We have the venue chosen, photographer, food, officiant, Save the Dates made, DJ, hair and makeup for the bridal party all organized and deposits all in.
I just found out I’m pregnant. We are super excited about it because it’s something we definitely both want. Anyway, my close friends and family are all saying we shouldn’t change the date or anything because “It doesn’t matter what people think”. Nobody seems to understand that I’m not worried about what anyone will think, I’m just worried about how *I* will feel, because it’s not at all how I imagined it. I’m the farthest thing from a crazy bride-type girl, but at the same time, I do think I shouldn’t be miserable on my wedding day, either.
The man says we can do whatever I want, that it’s up to me. I know he’d rather just go ahead as planned and not lose our deposits, which is a concern of mine too.
I’ve also had a previous miscarriage, so I’m terrified of changing the dates, having to tell everyone why, and then going through that again and all our guests would HAVE to know.
PS – I can’t find any maternity wedding dresses that aren’t completely hideous.
Post # 3
What does your dress look like? Is there anyway you can just rock your bump in a fitted dress? Look up pics of Bethenny Frankel, she was from memory about 7 months pregnant and looked fantastic in a dress that is fitted, ruched and boned.
I say rock the belly. I think pregnant brides look stunning… in saying that I have no conservative views clouding my ideas on how a bride should look so I think all brides are gorgeous no matter what. You will still be able to have a blast, you just wont be able to get hammered lol
Think about your ceremony and think about how beautiful it will be to include your ‘bump’. Imagine your soon to be hubby placing his hand on your belly as he vows to always take care of you and your unborn child and how thankful he is of the gift you are giving him… getting teary thinking about it!
At the end of the day do what makes you happy. If it was me, I would rock out with my belly out ;P
Post # 4
Rock the belly ,keep your deposits and carry on!
Also, if you don’t want to be wedding planning at 7 months, talk to vendors and see if you can bump up some. Many are flexible for these types of life changing events 😉
Post # 5
Do you mind being pregnant at your wedding and on your honeymoon? I would prefer to not be but it’s up to you. You could wait until your out of your first trimester and then change the date if you want to, I don’t think you will lose all of your deposits if there is enough time…but that being said I think you would be totally fine being a pregnant bride and as long as your happy with it. Congratulations on your pregnancy 🙂
Post # 6
I think you should do it as planned! Think about how stessful it would be to plan a wedding with a tiny baby!! Also try empire wasted wedding gowns – the are beautiful and should be comfortable when you’re that far along!
Post # 7
First of all, congrats!!! 🙂
I went to a wedding last year where the bride moved up her December wedding to September because she was pregnant. She was probably 4-5 months and her bump was noticeable but nothing major. Everyone knew she was pregnant and no one said anything negative about it. In fact, she looked absolutely radiant in her dress…I really loved her dress and it was a maternity dress from David’s Bridal.
I second Mrs. Argentina’s suggestion to see if your vendors can work with you and celebrate your wedding earlier. IMO, I say rock your belly! Do what makes you happy 🙂
Post # 8
@Zebutina: I don’t think there’s anything wrong with pregnant brides, but I agree, I personally wouldn’t want to do it. You could call your vendors and ask if they’d be willing to change the date (forward or back, whichever you prefer) without charging you any extra or losing your deposits. It’s early enough out that they could still find other couples to replace your times, and if you stick with the same vendors they might be willing to work with you.
I can only speak for myself, but if I were going to comlpetely lose a lot of money, I’d keep the date as is and just rock the bump. But if I knew I wouldn’t lose any/too much money for pushing back the date, I’d probably do that. In the end it’s your decision though- do what you’re comfortable with 🙂
Post # 9
Congratulations. If you feel you can go on with the wedding being pregnant, go for it! Just take precautions to make sure you are well rested and not stressed out (as much as possible). Not only will you save the deposits, you will also not have to worry about caring for a newborn/toddler/small child and all its demands while planning for a wedding in the future. As for wedding dress designs, try one with an empire waistline.
Post # 10
First of all congratulations and best wishes to you guys!
Also, if you want to know what I would do, I would move it up a few months. Not anything drastic like 2 weeks, but I’d move it up so that I was only 4-5 months. Why? I don’t want to be miserable being on my feet all day due to TWO things (being pregnant and having to be on your feet most of the day.) I don’t see anything wrong, per se, with keeping it the same though. It would just be a comfort thing. Plus I’d want just a few months of marriage before a little one to give us time instead of one big thing and 2-ish months later another big thing. Again, that is JUST me.
I think you can totally rock it if you want to. Fiance and I went to a wedding last summer and the bride was 6 or 7 months pregnant I think. Her dress fit her BEAUTIFULLY and was super flattering and cute. Empire waists I think are also very well suited to bumps. What does your current dress look like?
Post # 11
it could be a really special thing to share, but if you are uncomfortable with the idea and dont think you will be happy then dont go through with it because its not worth your time and money if you cant enjoy the day and you have regrets. I agree with:
@Bears-bub: picturing that moment and sharing that with your family and friends while making vows to eachother and your growning child could make your wedding the most memorable yet!
Post # 12
also dont just look at maternity dresses of friend of mine rocked a normal wedding dress with a lot of alterations depending on how you carry and how good of a seamstress you have you might be able to pull of a similar thing
Post # 13
My cousin was 8.5 months pregnant at her wedding – she had a simular situation where she found out she was pregnant after they had everything booked. She had even bought her dress! The seamstress modified it and did wonders.
Post # 14
Congratulations! I’m sure you’ll look amazing… Think pregnant Natalie Portman!
Whatever you do I’m sure everything will work out and you’ll have an amazing day 🙂
Post # 15
Can you move to a sooner date? Maybe you wont lose the deposits that way?
Post # 16
I’ve seen a handful of pregnant brides in the dress I wore
It’s David’s Bridal Galina T3069