Post # 1
This is going to see really dumb but for some reason im over thinking this! We have decided to have our wedding sometime in spring – mainly leaning towards April because its better weather here (ive researched the weather channel lol). anyways here is my concern… you have christmas, my bday is the day after christmas, then nye, then valentiens day in feb, then what will be our wedding anniversary in prolly april, then my soon to be husbands bday in april (22)! Oh did i mention my brothers bday is also march 26? lol so i know it sounds dumb but thats ALOT of things all in 4 months! i dont want to skip either of our bdays to afford another holiday…..but i also dont want to move the date we want our wedding to be just to avoid the busiest holiday time of year for us……
any advice on my super silly question!?!?!?!
do people really go all out for wedding anniversares esp when so close to other big holidays??
Post # 3
Ours will go my mom’s birthday (August 29), his birthday (September 06), our anniversary (October 13), Halloween (it matters to us!), my birthday (November 02), his son’s birthday (November 06), my brother’s birthday (November 15), Thanksgiving, Christmas, NYE, his daughter’s birthday (February 29). There are, thankfully, a few decent gaps beween a couple of those, but it’s a lot in a row!
But no, I don’t think peole often go all out for all anniversaries. Maybe the biggies (first, possibly fifth, tenth, 25th, etc.).
Post # 4
Our wedding day is on my aunt’s birthday, my FI’s birthday is one week after that, my birthday is eight days after that, and my sister’s birthday is four days after that. Also, our wedding day is one day before FBIL’s wedding anniversary. I wanted an October wedding and a bunch of birthdays/anniversaries were not going to deter me, haha. In fact I think it makes the day more special knowing it is surrounded by all these other special days. The only celebrations that have ever been combined have been mine and my sister’s birthdays since they’re only four days apart. Everything else has gotten its own celebration. Yes, they tend to be smaller celebrations, but they’re still acknowledging the special nature of the day, and that’s what matters to me 🙂
Post # 5
You’re never going to be able to avoid that. The list continues. There’s Thanksgiving, your parents’ birthdays, your kids birthdays, your parents’ anniversaries, etc.
I don’t think it’s something to worry about unless all the events were within a few days of each other or something.
There are the same number of days each year for people with holidays close together and with them spread out. We all have the same amount of time to save up/recover from the holidays. So just plan to save a little more than normal during the slower months.
If it makes you feel any better, we are getting married in November, three days after my birthday, then there’s the holiday season, nye, etc. as well, so I feel your pain. Plus my mom and sister both have bdays in January!
The thing is, you can’t plan all of this stuff out because as your family gets bigger your calendar will get more full.
Post # 6
I have a big family so I’ll leave their birthdays out of this, but here’s our “celebration timeline”: Dating anniversary in November, Christmas in December, my bday in the beginning of February, Valentine’s, his bday in mid-March, our wedding at the end of April. Also our engagement was in May if we really wanted to get crazy with celebrations.
Typically, what we’ve done is picked one “holiday” to go all out–i.e. either Christmas or our anniversary or valentine’s. We do also celebrate our birthdays, but otherwise just do something smaller on the other days (go out to dinner or make a special dinner or do drinks and dessert). You can still celebrate/recognize the day without going over the top, just try to maintain perspective.
Post # 7
Our wedding is on July 27… Right after FIs July 23 and before my August 9!
Post # 8
I don’t really consider birthdays (or Valentine’s Day, for that matter) to be “major holidays”. But, my husband and I don’t really exchange gifts for birthdays/holidays, so the only added expense is what we spend to celebrate (e.g., if we host a party we have to purchase/prepare food, etc.). Those are always skippable if there is too much else going on.
Post # 9
ok now i feel better…. thanks everyone! 🙂
like i said, i was overthinking it 😛
now if i could only decide march, april or may due to weather!!!
Post # 10
i have a large family so if i had to consider everyone’s bday and all of the holidays in the year, we would never have set a date. we chose the day before my sister’s birthday. she flew in for our wedding and she loved that she could spend her bday with family.
the only major holidays that we avoided was thanksgiving, xmas and easter.
as for our anniversary, it’s really only going to matter to us. unless it’s a milestone anniversary, it’s not going to be a big party.
Post # 11
My aunt (moms half sister) had her wedding on my little brothers birthday, and then proceded to tell my mother that “she picked that day because it was no one important’s birthday”. which was a bitch move. I have though about moving my wedding date to her baby’s first birthday, but I’m not that much of a bitch.
I think, if your family is okay with it, and snarky comments aren’t made about it being “no one important’s birthday” then go for it.
Post # 12
@des1982: re: March/April/May – do you have a venue picked out yet? If your date of 2015 is accurate, obviously it’s probably still too far off for that.
You may want to leave the date fluid (“Spring of 2015”) until you start looking at venues. A number of places I looked offered “off season” discounts if you did it before May, and they were pretty substantial. So that might push you into a certain month. There’s also a lot that can come up between now and then, plus some venues may not have the exact date you want available (which seems crazy when you’re planning so far out but stranger things have happened).