(Closed) Wedding date too close to yours or FI’s bday?

posted 10 years ago in September 2010
Post # 3
5993 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: May 2010

my hubbys birthday is june 15th and our wedding date june 23rd

thinking if the dates are too close together seems like overthinking to me….. am i missing something? 

would a wedding on labour day weekend be more/less expensive?

Post # 4
2725 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2009

Nope, both of our birthdays are in December but:

  • September 1st is my neice’s birthday
  • September 9 is my dad’s girlfriends birthday
  • September 12 is our wedding day! 
  • September 13 is my dad’s birthday
  • September 16 is my FIL’s anniversary
  • September 20 is my brother & SIL’s anniversary
  • September 23 is my childhood bff’s anniversary

I’m probably missing something else in there also. Actually, I think my FMIL’s birthday is in September. September is a crazy month but we picked it because the weather is pretty decent here in Ohio in September. We had a couple of Saturdays in mind but picked the 12th because that is when our venue is available.

Post # 5
578 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: December 1969

Well I can see both points. Having it close to his birthday might be a good thing because he will remember it. But I can see where have two sep. celebrations would be nice.

 I honestly would go with Septmeber 5th that way people are able to make it easier. And you can always just delay your honeymoon or trip so you can go when the leaves are changing.

 * I missed that last part I say go with what your Fiance wants he is the one most important and it is his birthday! Your guest will make it if they can! Sorry!

Post # 6
2324 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: November 2019

We got married on my birthday. 🙂 It’s kinda annoying, but it was fun then!

Post # 7
2271 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: August 2009

Our wedding is August 7th and my birthday is the 8th. I am expecting big gifts in the future! LOL

Post # 8
2819 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: February 2013

Our wedding won’t be too close to either of our birthdays (or any other real event), but it will be cutting it close to the start of classes. =) We’re thinking labour day weekend, 2012 (which means we’ll probably have the wedding either August 31st, September 1st, or September 2nd).

Post # 9
2365 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: October 2009

We’ll be on our honeymoon during my birthday!!! I actually didn’t even take that into account when we booked our venue, but than I was like O.M.G. we’ll be on vacation every year for my birthday! Haha.

I know my mom and dad are like: Ms.HymanRoth, did you do this specifically so you can celebrate your bday on vacation every year? Lol. I love it.

Post # 10
523 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: December 2009

We’re getting married on 9/25/2010, 5 days after my 25th birthday.

Post # 11
2470 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: September 2010

Actually I was thinking about this the other day… our bdays are both in June

FI’s bday is June 25

Our wedding is September 25

Christmas is December 25

its like a celebration every quarter of the year… not even planned lol

Post # 12
3316 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: October 2009

Our wedding is on my birthday.  My Fiance says it is the one way I’ll never forget our anniversary.

Post # 13
796 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: April 2009

Our wedding was two days after my birthday. It worked out fine, but we’ll see how it goes for anniversaries.

Post # 14
513 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2009

My FI’s groomsman is getting married September 5, labor day of this year. My birthday is September 12. Our wedding is September 19. It works out fine.

I only worried for the future because I want him to acknowledge my birthday and our wedding anniversary. I think he will. 

We may climb half dome in yosemite for my birthday if I am not too bogged down with wedding planning. 🙂

Good luck picking your date! It’s really exciting!

Post # 15
81 posts
Worker bee

The pros of a holiday weekend definitely might outweigh the cons, but I’d be nervous about clustering celebrations so close together. My birthday is in Jan, and with holidays/vacations in Dec and Valentine’s day in Feb, it’s been financially stressful for my bf, even though I don’t ask for or expect anything fancy. And my mom’s birthday, brother and SIL’s anniversary, and father’s day are all in the same week–I live in a different state, so it was expensive just to send them all flowers this year! So, I think if it was me, I would want to spread the celebrations around…I know having a January bday, come summer I’m ready for a little celebration But that’s just me! Holiday weekend is definitely a considerate, smart move!

Post # 16
14181 posts
Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2009

I wouldn’t be too worried about clustering birthdays/weddings together. There will always be SOME clustering of holidays and festivities once you get married….your cousin’s birthday lands on your best friend’s wedding date or so and so’s graduation party is during so and so’s house warming party…..I think it’s just something you’ll have to get used to.I mean, unless it’s like his 21st or something =]

Just give your Fiance a raincheck and celebrate his bday a month later when things calm down. We do this a lot because he’s military and we haven’t actually celebrated a birthday in each others company in 4 years. And it’s still JUST as special. If anything, I ntoice he works a little extra hard to make up for it =]. My bday is 4 days after valentines day, and his bday is a month later…it’s just how it is. We find ways to do affordable, nice things for each other. 

However, holiday weddings are nice! A friend of mine is getting married over labor day and i’m so glad to have a recovery monday! Is it that important that his birthday be overshadowed for the wedding despite convenience? 

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