Post # 1
I would like to know peoples opinions please, i got married 4 weeks ago and for some strange reason i cant remember most of my ceromony which really hurts me , on some of my wedding photos they are really bad, theres one with me coming in with my dad and im not smiling and im looking down at the floor, and then theres another one where im stood there and i look really frightened, dont know if i was in a haze or just simply blacked out with nerves, something happened to me in my ceromony, i certainly wasnt myself, and i really want to remember it as it is meant to be the happiest day of my life, i remember from the reception onwards, but i just cry everyday thinking about it, would you have a vow renewal to do it properly and remember it or not.x.
Post # 2
I’ve read about this happening to a lot of other bees too, it was probably just nerves which have caused the day to be a bit of a haze.
I’m in the same boat re: crappy photos. I hate 95% of mine and just picked 2 I liked to frame and scrapped the rest lol.
Post # 3
Teresa1 : it’s pretty normal. You are making a life changing decision, even if you know you want to, it’s scary, different and overwhelming. The “happiest day of your life” is bs because it’s a day, like any other, when you can feel happiness, sadness, fear, anxiety, excitement, anger, joy and anything else in between. The difference is you’re wearing a nice dress.
I can’t remember much from our ceremony. Not many people can. A vow renewal won’t help anything because chances are you’ll still be excited, nervous, anxious. You may actually be more anxious because you *need* to remember the renewal.
The photos capture what happened on the day, the emotions you felt on the day. Which means you don’t have to be happy in them. I have photos where I’m clearly pissed off from our wedding day because someone pissed me off. The photographer captured it, I don’t like those photos but you just don’t look at them. What your photos show is the reality of the day, a day in which you made a decision and your emotions reflected that.
Post # 4
It’s fairly common. The day goes by so fast, that only photos really remain. So much time and money went into planning a wedding, months and months of work all for one single day and its over.
Post # 5
And another reason to hire a videographer. Sorry bee – I remember everything, so I don’t have the same experience you do. But do you think a vow renewal will actually make you happy? Maybe focus on your MARRIAGE and the happiness and memories you’re building there rather than just one day
Post # 6
Sweetie- with kindness you are waaaay over-reacting if you’re crying daily about this weeks later.
If you’re not normally like this over other things, it could be that you placed so much stock in having a perfect dream wedding that your reality couldn’t possibly live up to it.
If you weren’t smiling in some pics and can’t remember the whole ceremony, yes it was probably nerves! But you have some pics, and even if these pics don’t seem perfect they’ll be ones you’ll look back on with fondness.
FWIW I grinned like an idiot throughout the ceremony- not just a happy smile but a full on slept-with-a-coathanger-in-my-mouth deranged grin. And my flowing dress that was meant to look beachy and Bohemian….well it was a really pretty dress and it looked beachy and Bohemian from the front- but yikes, from the side view I looked like I was pregnant (I’m not). So yeah, some unflattering pictures in the mix.
Few of us pull off the idealized vision of our weddings, focus on what really matters most. For me it was that our entire family could be there (no small feat when many loved ones are long distance. Oh yeah, and the guy I married ain’t too bad either
I wouldn’t recommend a vow renewal- at least not for another 10 or 20 years! It’s way too soon, won’t achieve what you hoped, and will just keep you dwelling on this. Seriously sweetie, have one more good cry over this, eat ice cream directly from the container (I personally favour Black Jack Cherry Frozen Yogurt for my own pity-party-for-1 but cookie dough ice cream would do just fine too) then please make a sincere effort to realize you’re over-reacting so you can get past this.