(Closed) Wedding Day Advice

posted 7 years ago in African-American
Post # 3
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214 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

You need to be a little more specific. The best generic advice I can give is make sure your day is about the two of you. So many of my brides are trying to please other people and the day becomes that and moves away from being about them. You have to make sure you stay in budget. Make a list of everything you want and do lots of research to find those things (ebay, etsy, other bridal sites with classifieds etc.) Once you make your list and have prices for everything the best thing you can do is stick to that list and budget. I tell my brides this: If you add something to your list, take something off!

Post # 5
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54 posts
Worker bee
  • Wedding: August 2011

Always negotiate cost with vendors. This is your husband and your day, enjoy. Dont let other people ruin your joy. This will not be an easy journey but you will love the finish product.

Post # 6
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2550 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: July 2011

Even though it seemed like it took forever for the day to get here, it was over in a minute.  So:

-Its yours and your Husbands day.  Its about celebrating your union not about your Mom or his brother or your Grandma. 

-Remember to enjoy the day.  All your memories will be cherished.(Yes, even when “Crazy” Grandma has a Too Much Information moment>)

-Its only one day.  Don’t go into debt because it truly is only one day.  If you can’t afford it, don’t sell your 1st born.  Because my gf was a DOC fulltime in a past life, I’ve seen and heard many stories. 

-Hire a DOC if possible or have a good friend act as one.  Its more than just making sure everyone is lined up.  The day is a production and you want someone else to handle the small issues like ensuring the correct processional music is played, handling your vendors or family when nerves are raw.

-Taking pictures.  Give your photographer a list of pictures that are a must.  Also if you don’t have a DOC, make sure you have a picture handler.  It will be their job to ensure that Mom, Dad, Grandma, or brother is there and ready.   People tend to scatter once the ceremony is over.

-Eat.  So, much is going on that you’ll forget.

-Make a timeline and let important people know the details.  A wedding is a production so you need as many people to help.

-Keep it simple.  Over stimulation tires everyone so keep it simple.  Although we were an hour late, everyone LOVED our 20min ceremony.  And having a dinner instead of a reception was perfect for us because we love to Talk, eat, and listen to oldies.

-Enjoy.  Enjoy.  Enjoy.  Yes, you will feel like your running 10k mph but when you’ve laying w/ your Darling Husband that night, you’ll appreciate everything.

Post # 7
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207 posts
Helper bee

Don’t always get what you see, shop around first..I made a budget before planning and have stuck to it and I can assure you, no one will ever know how little we spent, because we got such great deals..

websites to consider

hobbylobby

micheals

joann fabrics

A.C. Moore

*sign up for emails and you will get coupons every week…why buy something full price when you can get it half off??*

saveoncrafts.com

craigslist.com-search under “wedding”

vistaprint.com (invitations, save the date)

as free0807  stated…negotiate. I am getting married on a Friday night so my rate is far less than a Sat wedding and even a Sunday Wedding.

Also look into DIY projects, determine if it will be cheaper for you to DIY or buy.

 

Post # 8
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1280 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: July 2011

For planning:

– don’t ever second-guess yourself. if you have a vision in your head, go with/for it! if people around you poo-poo the details without trying to understand the big picture or because you aren’t constantly asking for their advice/opinions, don’t let that get you down. tell them the following three words over and over (and with a smile): TRUST THE VISION. the only person’s who’s opinion should matter most is your fiance’s, regardless of who is paying.

– along the same lines, trust your gut. if you get a bad vibe or feeling about something (a vendor or a vendor’s contract, an interaction with bridesmaid or any wedding-related situation really), trust your instincts accordingly. (i had a bad feeling about the DOC i hired and it turned out i should have trusted my gut in thinking she wasn’t going to come through in the end. she took my money and ran and i ended up having to spend more money on someone trustworthy).

– also related, you get what you pay for. really consider the things you want to sacrifice on cost-wise. a service (entertainment, food) is far better to prioritize spending money on than a tangible thing (like decorations or linens). if you really love someone’s work, negotiate. more often than not, people want your business period and are willing to work with you rather than have you just write them off because they’re out of your budget.

– speaking of budgets and priorities, make sure you have them! if you’ve prioritized, say, an open bar and a really good DJ, re-evaluate the other things you’re spending money on and cut costs in other places if need be. conversely, you can also make a wish list for things that are a “nice-to-have” if have money leftover (this becomes important, if, say, you end up having far fewer guests coming than you initially planned for).

– make a checklist for what needs to be done and where everything should go for the day of the wedding, esp if you aren’t having a dedicated person take care of all the details & set-up, DOC or otherwise. you’ll want to be as stress free as possible while you’re getting ready, especially if you need to deal with anything major that comes up unexpectedly (like the zipper on your dress breaking – yeah, that happened to me! it’s a funny story now…). if your venue has a floorplan, get a copy and mark it up for everyone: florist, band, rentals, caterer, etc. a day-of timeline is also key, and if possible try to pad it by at least 1/2 an hour. inevitably someone/something will fall behind schedule… and if there is an extra 1/2 hour you can grab a mimosa and relax ๐Ÿ™‚

the day of:

– try to steal a few moments alone and with your husband, respectively. even if it’s sneaking up to the bridal suite during the reception to freshen up your make-up, you’ll thank yourself for taking a minute to breathe. same goes for a little alone time with your man. everyone is going to want to talk to you, take pictures with you, dance with you, etc. All. Night. even if it’s only 5 minutes, it’s nice to enjoy a moment just the two of you! even if it means kicking people out of the bridal suite when there’s still 1/2 a bottle of champagne left to drink ๐Ÿ˜‰

– try to take a look at everything once it’s been set up and before your guests arrive. it’s SUCH an amazing moment to be able to see everything you’ve worked so hard to plan come together!

– check-in with your photographer at least once to make sure they’ve taken the shots that you requested and grab them to take any that pop into your head that day before their time is up! if there are grandparents or older relatives, or special details you want on film, make sure your photographers are informed.

– make sure alcohol is within reach (if you drink that is). i was not nervous about the wedding or getting married at all, but the zipper fiasco was nervewracking, and i probably would have freaked out way more had i not had 2 glasses of wine in me already! a drink will calm everyone down ๐Ÿ™‚

– this goes without saying, but EAT. even if you have to have people make you a plate and you have to sneak into the bathroom to eat it, you really need the energy. plus, you of all people should enjoy the amazingness you’ve so carefully chosen and shelled out for!

– say thank you. whether it’s a public thing you to in front of all your guests or it happens within a more private conversation, thank your guests and your vendors, particularly people who traveled a long distance or vendors that surprised you with a little something extra.

– have fun!! ’nuff said ๐Ÿ™‚

Post # 9
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1280 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: July 2011

oops! double post!

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