I would have interviewed more vendors until I was throwing up vendors. I looked online at a million but I booked the first photographer, caterer, officiant and DJ I met with. I was not satisfied with the photographer and caterer AT ALL.
Don’t have a very small wedding. I thought I wanted a small wedding and I ended up with 40 people – it was horrible because it was so small. Have at least 60 people, I think.
Make sure you eat dinner and cake! Have a receiving line so you can greet everyone but yet still eat dinner.
Tell the DJ to tell your guests that they don’t have to stand for the dances. My guests looked pained and I don’t see any reason why they need to stand for the father/daughter and mother/son dances.
Do not get your dress hemmed with your slip on and then decide you don’t need to wear a slip. Bad idea. I was tripping over my skirt all the time.
Be sure to get artistic photos of just you and of you and your husband. I have formal pics and the wedding/reception shots but very few unique, artistic ones. Go on theknot.com and look at people’s bios for some inspiration or ask your photographers.
I would have asked someone to videotape the ceremony since it wasn’t in our budget to have a videographer.
Be cognizant of where your photographer is and smile, smile, smile. I ruined some great shots by looking in the wrong direction.
But, on the other hand, it is your day and you should enjoy it. It goes by super, super, super fast and I barely remembered anything from the day till I saw my photographer’s pictures.
Get lost in what you’re doing. Focus on your husband, focus on your father (during the dances). The pictures will reflect a dreamy bride. 🙂
Make sure your husband is comfortable dancing. Literally practice – put your chosen song on and practice.
Make sure your DJ has all your music and double, no, triple check any music you have given him is working. He didn’t have my husband’s song with his mother so we had to pick a stereotypical one at the last moment. No one cared but me. I was devasted though because I had actually picked the song.
Make sure all the bouts are on straight. Your Future Mother-In-Law will probably want to put on her son’s bout so don’t have a Groomsmen or a Bridesmaid or Best Man do it.
Designate someone to help you pee.
Designate someone to keep people away from you that stress you out. FMIL? Uncle Steve?
Make sure to take pics with your Bridal Party. You and the girls alone, he and the girls alone, you with the guys, him with the guys, you and him with the girls, you and him with the guys, and all of you. Do the kissing shot with you and the girls, them pretending to air kiss you. Gorgeous pic. You and Maid/Matron of Honor alone, him and Bridesmaid or Best Man alone. These two can be great artistic shots.
Good luck and enjoy!