- 6 years ago
- Wedding: October 2013
omg, I hear ya, I have been having multiple wedding nightmares a week!
First off, I do have generalized anxiety disorder and have been on meds for 5 years so I’m for sure anxious!
1. Yes, I want tears. I want THAT reaction. And I have made sure Fiance is aware that the moment he sees me is really important. Not that I necessarily need him to fake it or anything but he knows he needs to “react.” Luckily for me Fiance is an emotional kind of guy and there are other circumstances where we will both be emotional seeing our ringbearer walk up as there were originally supposed to be two but one, his nephew passed away suddenly 2 months ago. So there will likely be tears for that
2. Oh dear, I worry about that A LOT. Fiance has been known to overindulge a time or two (hell, or four or seven, who’s counting). We’ve talked about it and he knows I will straight up kill him if this happens. No, he’s not an alcoholic, for the bee above who jumped to that conclusion for your Fiance, but sometimes he drinks too much. I *hope* our talk will help and if not then I will recruit the Bridesmaid or Best Man and one of the Groomsmen who is also his brother to help. The bartenders also have instructions not to serve anyone who is visibly intoxicated. To avoid shennanigans with drink refusals, I may amend that to serve them a super watered down drink. No shots for anyone.
3. If I may ask, are you a virgin? In that case consumating is more important. We are not but damn if it still isnt important to me! One of my friends who was a virgin as was her husband told me a cute little story abt this. They had some downtime between pics and the reception so they went back to the hotel and consumated the marriage… then went back to the reception! I LOVE this idea! If there’s time, you know where Fiance and I will be! 😉
4. Yes, something will probably go wrong, in which case I recommend you adopt Dale Carnagie’s advice of asking yourself, “what’s the worse that can happen?” and then decide if you can get past it, chances are that you can. (except for Fiance getting smashed! eek! heads will roll!). You could also look into a day of coordinator. I got one and it will be her job to take care of all that stuff bc I sure as hell don’t want to be bothered with silly questions about missing cakes or other such shennanigans!