(Closed) Wedding day HELP!!!!! (LONG Story)

posted 10 years ago in Family
  • poll: Is anyone else having problems with FMIL?
    Yes : (3 votes)
    21 %
    No : (5 votes)
    36 %
    I haven't had any yet : (4 votes)
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    I don't want to talk about it :) : (2 votes)
    14 %
  • Post # 4
    152 posts
    Blushing bee
    • Wedding: March 2010

    This is a real tough one.  You want to incorporate as much of your mother and FMIL’s vision into your wedding as you can but at the same time, you need to stick with what YOU and your FH really want. Is there any way to approach her in a manner that shows you’ve really taken what she says to heart, but don’t really know how its possible without a bigger budget? Or perhaps letting your FH discuss it with his mother when you aren’t around, so she can see its not just you but both you and FH’s idea to keep the ceremony/reception small?

    I think a small wedding/reception and then a bigger celebration/laid back BBQ type affair after the fact could be great!  With wedding costs these days, I don’t see anybody who’d blame you… have you approached your Future Mother-In-Law with that idea?

     This is such a touchy subject and you know your Future Mother-In-Law better than we do, so we can only give some small suggestions, but i hope it helps! 🙂

    Post # 5
    2765 posts
    Sugar bee

    I agree with the suggestion to have your fiance be the one to talk to his mom!  Otherwise it could poison your relationship and get things starting off on the wrong foot…

    Post # 6
    495 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: September 2009

    I agree that your fiance should talk to his mom.  It sounds like the small wedding/cake reception is what he wants too.  When she starts talking about the church bulletin, what do you two say in reponse?  You remind her of the small wedding and?  It sounds like your fiance needs to put his foot down (maybe lightly!).

     However, I think your mom’s idea of the church potluck the next weekend is a great way to keep everyone included, and celebrate your marriage.  Your Future Mother-In-Law can help plan that, it will involve her, and hopefully leave you to your own desired plans for the real wedding!


    Post # 7
    5398 posts
    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: November 1999

    I agree on the church potluck and let your Future Mother-In-Law foot the bill.  Make sure you FH talks with her about it also because sometimes things can get touchy with the inlaws.

    Before my wedding, my inlaws verbally invited people to our wedding and kept lying to them about their invite was on the way.  They tried to get invites out of us to hand to their friends…and this all happened 2 weeks before the wedding!  It was a HUGE problem, followed by MANY fights, but with our guest list over 200 people and us out of seats at the reception it was impossible to include these extra people.  But, more importantly, WE paid for EVERYTHING ourselves, so they had no right to do that.

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