Post # 1
Okay, so not really drama, but some seriously guilty feelings on my part. So, I recently had my bridal shower and when I opened my mom’s gift to me – an aqua robe with Mrs. XXXXX on the back – I was kind of stunned. She was so excited and emotional about giving to me, she even commented that it was for me to wear on my wedding day. I absolutely love my mother and I love that this was something thoughful, but I absolutely DESPISE the idea of the color. It’s my wedding day, and I planned on wearing a white robe for pictures and getting ready. I already have the robes for my girls, which are mauvy-pink, and will absolutely clash with my aqua robe, and I just don’t know what to do. I am so worried about hurting my mom’s feelings, but I cannot wear a green robe for pictures on my wedding day and, because it is personalized, it cannot be returned. Please help me just navigate this, I don’t want to make my sweet momma sad.
Post # 2
Accidentally forget it at home. Or make sure it’s really dirty that day and spill some coffee on it (or something that won’t stain) for good measure.
Post # 3
Or take a few pictures in it with her but explain that you prefer the white robe.
Post # 4
Is your mom getting ready with you and your bridesmaids? If not, I’d wear the robe she gave you for a few pics, but then change into the white one for the majority of pics. If she is getting ready with you, that’ll be tough… I’d probably wear it but let her know you might slip into the white one to get some pics in. So, I guess either way I would attempt to wear both, hopefully your mom can understand that white is obviously more bridal than aqua so you’d like pics in that one as well.
Post # 5
..Wear it for a couple pics, then go back to your white. Never know… you may end up with a nice black n white version you like!
Post # 6
- Wedding: May 2019 - Hyatt Regency Grand Cypress
Aww, that’s so hard. Maybe you can tell her that while you’re so appreciative, and you didn’t want to be rude or sound ungrateful in front of your guests, you actually already got your robe for the wedding day. But reiterate that you appreciate it and you’re looking forward to wearing it at home after the wedding?
Post # 7
I would tell her you love it because there’s no need to hurt her feelings but that you really imagined wearing a white robe and you already have it picked out. Maybe tell her you’re looking forward to wearing it the night before and over your honeymoon?
Post # 8
Just wear it for a couple of pictures for your mom and then put on your other robe.
As someone who’s mother is long dead and did not get to be around for my wedding, in the long run it’s going to matter much more for you when you look back at your pictures and see the robe your mother had made for you that she was so proud of rather than white robe you bought yourself for Pinterest photo ops.
In thirty years when your mom is gone, what would you rather look back on?
Post # 9
I’d wear it for a few photos and then switch to the white. And let her know how perfect of a honeymoon robe it is with Mrs X stitched on it
Post # 10
Wear it for a few photos and then switch to your white robe. Tell her you are too scared to get it stained with makeup or hair products because you want to wear it on your honeymoon.
Post # 11
If it were the actual wedding dress, or veil or bouquet or something, then l would see that as a problem, but to me a the colour of the robe to get dressed in is incomparably less important that my mother’s feelings.
If it really is such a problem (despise ? goodness that’s a strong word for it) then l think pps have some good suggestions about photographs. I would venture to add though, that l would predict that a couple of pics of you getting dressed with bridesmaids are not going to be that big a deal in even a few months .
Post # 12
Wear it for a few photos, alone and with your bridesmaids, and then wear your white one. The photos can be printed in black and white, and the colors won’t matter. If she isn’t getting ready with you, then the few photos will be fine – a color one of you alone and a B&W one of you and bridesmaids. If she is getting ready with you, tell her honestly that you love it, and then have her see you get pictures with it on, but that the white goes better with the photo vibe you were going for.
After you are married, maybe even on your honeymoon, have your Dh get a photo of you wearing the robe, either at bedtime or over swimwear, and send it to your mum with an additional thanks. She loves you; she will understand.
Post # 13
Yet another vote to wear it for a few pics for your mother and then change back into your white robe.
Post # 14
I really fail to understand what is so horrible about wearing it. You know it’s not being sewed onto your skin, right? You can take it off and put the other robe on when you pose for the pictures that hardly anyone else is going to see or care about because no one really cares about you or your bridesmaids in robes except you.
Post # 15
- Wedding: October 2021 - City, State
Honestly, I wouldn’t wear it at all for any of the photos. I would tell her “I love the robe, and will be wearing it a lot, but I already made plans for what I want to wear during the getting ready part of the wedding and I really want to wear white as it’s my wedding day.”
Just make sure she knows you are appreciative and will put it to good use (even if you don’t actually).
Good luck, let us know how it goes!