Post # 1
so my future BIL’s long term gf is giving my fiance and i a hard time about not providing them with transportation to and from the wedding. the ceremony and reception are in the same location, the wedding is casual, outdoors, and in the mountains about 20 minutes away from the hotel. the only alcohol we’re providing is beer and wine, and we have to be out of our venue by 9. they seem to think they’re going to be too wasted to be responsible for themselves. we offered to arrange for the Father-In-Law and stepMIL to transport them, but they don’t want to ride with them. part of me wants to be accomidating, but it’s sooo not in the budget to get any sort of shuttle/bus/limo etc. BIL will be the Bridesmaid or Best Man in the wedding, and i think they’re used to the whole bridal party limo thing…. but that’s really not the type of event we’re having. should i just ignore them, and hope they just get over it, or am i asking too much of them to drive themselves to and from the hotel?
Post # 3
Well I’m making my guests drive 30 minutes between hotel and reception, so if you’re asking too much then so am I! Don’t give another thought to that girl’s crazy demands. I’m guessing you don’t want her to get trashed at your wedding anyway, which she’s less likely to do if she has to drive later!
Post # 4
Ya someone sounds a little demanding and entitled. Don’t let them make you feel guilty, you aren’t responsbile for their transportation. And you even tried to help them out by finding them a ride, which was nice enough of you.
Post # 5
They’re nuts! It’s totally not your problem at all. They wanted you to find them a ride, and you did it. You’ve been more than accomodating – if they don’t like what you set up for them, they can figure it out themselves!
Post # 6
They are adults. You have offered to arrange a ride for them.
I live in the right downtown in a large city.
Just getting across town takes more than 20 minutes and I certainly don’t expect anyone to arrange my transportation anywhere.
If the BIL is the Bridesmaid or Best Man then I think it is more than reasonable that he steps up to arrange transportation.