Post # 1
So, new dilemma.
Our wedding is in August next year now. Which is great. Only issue is, we have 4 birthdays, including the groom and his mother, and my 5 year old cousin, who will be 6 next year.
Now my soon to be mother in law is early August, which is fine coz we are on the 22nd. My grooms bday is on the 16th and that’s fine with him.
However, I didnt remember until after we booked it and sent the save the dates that my cousins birthday is the 24 or 25th, and since she is turning 6, I’m not sure how well that will go down. She would have to have her party on either the su day or the following weekend, which I feel bad about.
However, this would just be one year, they wouldn’t be celebrating our annoversary with us, maybe the big milestones after like 10 years,but not every year.
Should i be worried about this? Was it bad of me to have my wedding so close to her bday? Do you think it will cause issues
Post # 2
Don’t worry about it. There are so many birthdays in a year. I had to go to my cousin’s wedding the day after my 16th birthday, and I loved it. It was like extending the festivities with my family. People said happy birthday, and I got to show off my first tattoo! lol. Not that your 6 year old cousin will do that.
For my stepson, his birthday is limited to the day he has his party and the day of his birthday. It’s not celebrated over several days. I don’t think you should worry about it at all. The most it will do is reserve that weekend for your wedding rather than a birthday party… in that case, they’ll either skip your wedding (if they REALLY want that day), or schedule it another weekend.
I vote don’t worry.
Post # 3
There’s only 365 days in a year. Birthdays and other events are bound to overlap, that’s just common sense. If anyone in your family has an issue with it too bad. You’re entitled to get married whatever day you want.
Post # 4
Dont worry about it. My Fiance bday is sept 14 mine is the 27. Originally i was going to have it on the 26th but because my daughter’s dads bday is the 26th i didnt want it that day so we went with the 19th. Its just a birthday and if they want to have a party i am sure they can have it on a sunday or any other day that is not your wedding day.
Post # 5
My MIL’s birthday was the day after our wedding. We were worried too, but she said it was fine, and it was actually fun for her because she got to be with all her siblings the day after the wedding and they planned a great surprise party for her. Now we joke that we will never forget her birthday!
Post # 6
You’ll never find a date where it isn’t someones birthday (or close it). Don’t worry about it.
Post # 7
Don’t worry about it. A friend of mine was a Groomsmen in a wedding ON his birthday.
My wedding was the 17th, brothers birthday the 11th sisters birthday the 21st, dad’s anniversary/aunts birthday 23rd, BM’s birthday the 25th….it was all good!
Post # 8
If you consider everyone’s bdays youll never pick a date!
Post # 9
I wouldn’t worry about it. It would be difficult to plan a wedding that didn’t affect at least one person’s birthday. dont change the date for this or feel guilty.
Post # 10
Don’t worry about it and go forward with your plans.
Post # 11
One of my husband’s cousin’s birthday was on our wedding day and he was turning 25 I think, but he still came. I had no idea until the next year when DH’s grandma mentioned it. So I wouldn’t worry about it. Most people would rather celebrate a wedding than their birthday celebrations (if they even have one!) which can be moved to another weekend in most cases!
Post # 12
I don’t think it’s a huge deal. Our wedding is a week before FI’s birthday, two days after his niece’s 2nd birthday, and two weeks before his mom’s birthday, and no one seems to mind. Like you said, a wedding only happens once.
We almost had our wedding on one of our groomsman’s actual birthday. We were going to ask the DJ to have everyone sing Happy Birthday to him…I was actually kind of excited, haha. But we ended up picking a different date.
Post # 13
Don’t worry about it. We had our wedding the day after my husband’s birthday. He shares his birthday with his aunt, plus his brother & father, and my brother have birthdays that month, too.
Post # 14
Honestly, I didn’t give people’s birthdays any thought when choosing our date. The only way a birthday would possibly have affected our choice would be if it was a VERY close friend’s 30th or something; even then, probably not.
It’s her 6th birthday: IMO they would be being ridiculous if they were bothered by it. If they are, then that’s up to them; you can’t please everyone.
Post # 15
It doesn’t matter, Fiance and I will marry on our 10th year anniversary, which is the day after FI’s dad’s 65th birthday and honestly his Dad never celebrates his bdays… I always told Fiance how he should’ve chosen another day to ask me out lol oh well. Of course he didn’t think about that, probably cause he forgot about his Dad’s bday that year LOL xD