Post # 1
My Mother-In-Law offered to take care of the decorations for our ceremony and reception. We don’t live nearby and it wasn’t something we are able to go do ourselves, so I accepted gratefully.
Our ceremony is here and our reception is here, right downstairs.
It’s a black tie event at the end of February. What we really need is something to help make the ceremony room look appropriate for a wedding. It’s got good bones, but it’s a fixer upper. We’ve got no wedding colours and no theme.
Yesterday my sis sent me these photos –
I’m so confused about what to do or say! It’s not a Christmas party. If my sis had not tagged along and sent me these photos I don’t know what would have happened. Supreme wedding day meltdowns when I got to my venue and discovered it decorated with Christmas trees.
She did run at least the candle tree by me, and I okayed it. I hadn’t seen photos, though. It sounded okay the way she described it but it does not look at all the way I imagined.
Please tell me I’m overreacting and all I have to do is wave some magic wand to make this stuff at all appropriate.
Fiance is completely not fazed By The Way. He thinks we can get the money she put down applied to some other items instead. Trying not to step on any toes here. I completely get that the Mother-In-Law is doing something fantastic for us. I get that I have to talk to her about it but I am dreading it. I would normally make Fiance talk to his mom but I doubt he will be able to give her… artistic direction.
Any recommendations for how to decorate or how to speak with my Mother-In-Law about this?
Post # 3
I think you should get your Fiance to say something along the lines of ‘we really like the ‘insert thing you like’ but the trees aren’t really the look we are going for. Green Dream saw these *show photos of what you do want* and we both really liked them, do you think it would be possible to swap the trees for something similar?’
It’s important Fiance does the talking so it doesn’t seem like you are being a fussy bride. Good luck and let us know how you go!
Post # 4
I think both of your rooms are fine, especially for a black tie wedding. I would keep the decor simple and elegant to go with the clean lines of the room.
For the ceremony room, I would focus the decor only on the aisle and the front of the room. The room doesn’t need anything else.
Here are links to real weddings held at your venue.
I would thank the Future Mother-In-Law for her work but say that I have now realized that I was expecting the impossible of her to do the decorating with no theme or colors. I would put my mind to what I really wanted and give her some specific direction.
Post # 5
@julies1949: Oh gosh! One of those links of yours shows exactly one of those items she ordered in white and it looks much more appropriate. Hopefully that can be one of those things I can tell her I do like. It would be easy to switch the colour if they have it in stock! Thank you!
Post # 6
Came back to update – my Future Mother-In-Law spoke with the owner of the rentals shop and has arranged for us to come in the week before the wedding and select whatever we want. He understood our situation (planning remotely) and it is the perfect time of year for it as everything will be in stock. Lucky!