Wedding delayed..

posted 2 years ago in Engagement
Post # 2
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: August 2018

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hissoon :  What kind of monthly bills do you aquire once you’re married? Were you planning on financing the wedding or something?

Our bills did not change once we got married…

Post # 3
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Honey bee

First of all, what kind of extra bills are you talking about?  That seems odd.  

Second of all, don’t worry about people asking.  Fiance and I have been engaged for almost a year now and we still don’t have a date.  It’s not a reflection on our relationship, it’s just that we aren’t in any kind of huge hurry and this year got too busy for us.  People love to ask about it….it’s not that they are pressing or judging, they just tend to ask.  

Post # 4
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: March 2019

I have to ask the same things as PPs did: do you talk about the money you need for your wedding or for something in the future?

 

Post # 6
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: November 2017

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hissoon :  So you’re on public assistance? Thus if you have an actual husband rather than just a (live in) “friend” you lose financial benefits because his income will now be counted.  Is that what you mean?

Post # 7
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Newbee
  • Wedding: December 2019

So, as a single woman you qualify for subsidies that would end once your income increases? 

Post # 8
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: August 2018

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hissoon :  So, the two of you combined cannot afford those things or is your fiance unwilling to help with “your” bills?

Post # 9
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2019

I mean… maybe regarding daycare if you get government assistance but wouldn’t qualify with both your incomes. But student loans you have to pay regardless. 

Post # 10
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2019 - City, State

When you get married you become a team….seems like that would actually HELP with paying the bills not make it harder….

Post # 11
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Bumble Beekeeper

You have to watch out for your children first. Always.

I don’t know what your day care or insurance situations are, but if you are on income-based student loan repayment and worry that it could change after getting married just file your taxes separately.

Don’t be embarrassed to tell people that you are still working through all the fun details of wedding planning and you’re looking forward to celebrating with the man you love. 

Post # 12
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2018

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beethree :  Some of the income-based/income-driven plans now count the spouse’s income even if you file separately. I was surprised by this when I researched it last year, so just wanted to give that caveat for anyone reading who may be in the same situation.

Post # 14
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Newbee

I am appalled at some of the judgy comments on here! It’s like people don’t think weddings are expensive… I personally think well done for putting your family first and not ruining yourself financially. If you currently already have a lot of things to pay for you don’t want to add to the stress of that and you won’t enjoy planning the wedding because you will just be thinking about the cost of it.

I think that it’s no ones business but yours! But people are nosey so maybe just come up with a standard line like PP suggested along the lines if you’re still deciding on a suitable date 🙂

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