Post # 1
So the venue we have chosen has several preplanned menus for reception dinners. All menus include dessert, which I thought was odd because what is the wedding cake for then? I haven’t asked if we can have the dessert removed yet as I wanted to see what the norm was. My fiance and I are both 21 and the first ones to get married out of all sibbling and cousins so we haven’t had any weddings as examples.
So my question is, do weddings normally have a plated dessert course as well as cake? Do people eat cake after eating a dessert or is the cake more for show? Also we were going to have a candy bar instead of favours, but now I’m thinking that candy is just overkill with cake and dessert..??
Post # 3
What I’ve noticed is that there is always cake, and sometimes desserts as well. I say just keep the desserts but also have a cake, you just probably won’t need a slice for every single person, but still a good amount. I personally would cut the candy bar, but as a guest I wouldn’t mind extra candy! lol
Post # 4
I was confused by this too! Our dessert was our cake and build your own sundae type thing, which immediately followed the speeches. I’ve not been to many weddings either, and I never paid that much attention to the cake.
Post # 5
I’ve been to weddings that do both. Some have had a plated dessert and then cake was served on platters on the table with coffee after. Some have had the cake served as the dessert (eg. with some berry sauce and cream). Most venues will let you serve your cake as the dessert if you want and will take a bit of money off the cost of your catering.
At our wedding we are not having a plated dessert and instead will just have cake served on platters on the tables. This saves us $7 a head off our catering. I’ve been to so many weddings where the plated dessert does not get eaten because people are up and mingling/dancing I didn’t want to waste the money or have my cake not eaten because people are full from dessert. We are having a candy bar too – that’s enough sweet stuff!
Post # 6
Most weddings I have been to are buffet so they don’t have a dessert other than the cake. If you & your FI are big sweets people you should keep a dessert. Personally though between the plated dessert, cake, and candy bar I would be having some major sugar shock- but I’m not huge into sweets. Personally I’d just do a cake and candy bar….
Post # 7
Most Catered Meals include Dessert. You will probably find that if you eliminate the Dessert Course there won’t be a significant savings.
Wedding Cake is traditional. And most times it isn’t provided by the Caterer, but rather by a seperate Baker.
Traditionally people ate some at the Wedding and took some home for Good Luck * (individual cake boxes are now rarely seen at Weddings)
Hope this helps,
* Single Women used to dream upon the cake (in a box) of their future husband so the theory went… lol mind you the cake used to be fruitcake, so it was a lot easier to slip under one’s pillow in a tiny cake box… and some would say that the dreams might have indeed been caused by consuming the heavily laden rum fruitcake at the Wedding to begin with !!
Post # 8
@This Time Round: My parents had a fruitcake and apparently they had several people asking to take slices home with them! This was only 23 years ago (I think) but they got married in a church with many older and very traditional attendees.
Post # 9
@kapalua67: I see a LOT of weddings where they serve ice cream or a brownie or something on the side of the cake!
Post # 10
@kapalua67: We’re just having our cake as dessert. We also went to a wedding earlier this year that had plated meals, dessert, and then the cake – needless to say, we were all so ridiculously full (and the dessert was this AMAZING tasting plate of like 4 different things) that no one at our table of 6 touched the cake at all!
Maybe ask your venue if you can ditch the dessert (i.e. have your cake as dessert) and put the value into something else, like extra canapes/snacks during the cocktail hour or see if you can upgrade your drinks package, etc.
Post # 11
Great, Thanks everyone! I think we’re going to go with the cake being plated and served with a side of something and the candy bar. 🙂