Post # 16
From what I’ve read these boards are pretty against destination weddings. I was in a wedding in DR 10 years ago, and my father and step mother were married in Barbados when I was 15. My fiancé and I have always known that we wanted to go away to get married. When we got engaged we considered California and Jamaica, and decided on Jamaica because we wanted to go the all-inclusive route.
The thing with choosing to have a destination wedding is that you have to be OK with the fact that it could just be you and your husband at the wedding – not everyone will want to go, and you certainly shouldn’t make them feel obligated to attend. We honestly would be happy to elope, so a destination wedding feels like a compromise. Our wedding will be at a private venue off the resort and we are paying for the wedding ourselves.
I just want to add that it’s a little ridiculous to suggest that you’re “pushing” anything on the people you invite to a Destination Wedding. If people genuinely cannot go, or don’t want to go, they should feel comfortable enough to politely decline. We are all adults here.
Post # 17
I had a destination wedding in Puerto Vallarta. You do need to have thick skin and realize not everyone will be able to make it. All of our parents were on board, as well as most of our siblings. I did have 2 close friends bail due to finances and not enough vacation time. I really missed having them there, but I was in no way upset at them for not coming.
At our venue, we could personalize some things, but not others. They had a very strict timeline for when the wedding started, and we could not budge on that, as the wedding space is used for day tours, and they only had 45 minutes to flip the space. We had a set menu, and could not make any changes to it.
I was able to dictate exactly how I wanted both the ceremony and reception space set up. I chose the colors, and all of my flowers. We used their officiant, but also had the option to bring in our own. We chose our wedding cake, and they had a couple of options for music.
Basically, our venue provided certain things, and then everything else we chose ourselves. Some things were included, and other things we had to pay for. I’ve seen pictures from a ton of weddings at our venue, and they all look different, because each one has personal touches from the couple.
Having a destination wedding was absolutely the right choice for us and our families, but I do understand it’s not for everyone.
Post # 18
I’m going to be against Destination Wedding in general. It limits who will be able to attend and asks people to make shitty choices. You’re talking about customization, so clearly you care about that and you won’t be able to do it from a remote location. Why not just honeymoon in the Caribbean?
Post # 19
I do like destination weddings. But I’m able to make it work if I want to. And if I don’t want to go, it’s a great excuse to decline.
I would consider your group though. Have a lot of them already or will be going to a lot of DW’s in a year or two within yours? If yes, then I wouldn’t. Do they have disposable income & travel friendly jobs? Have you travelled together before? Are they traveling types to begin with? Do they have passports? These are things I would consider.
As far as customization goes, in my experience by the time the day came and went I didn’t care a hoot about my customized elements. I thought I did going in, but in the end they just didn’t much matter. Except my invites, I liked them, but that’s an easy customization and it’s one you can do no matter where your wedding is. And as others have said, you can customize anywhere. It might be a little more tedious or expensive doing it out of town but it can be done. There is actually a lot of value to a package believe it or not. Ease is pretty nice. And it will be custom to you and your guests regardless because it is the only wedding of YOURS and likely the only wedding they or you will go to at that venue. So it’s still unique to the people involved.
If you do go Destination Wedding, choose a place that’s easily accessible. Non stop flights from most major airports or at least from where the bulk of your guests will be traveling from (if they are concentrated in one area). And be prepared to pay travel expenses for VIPS if need be. Also consider physical ability, grandma with a walker or heavy duty medication/medical equipment routine = a no go.
Congrats on your engagement!