Post # 1
I just tried to explain to Fiance the concept of a brooch bouquet, and its sentimental value. His response was along the lines of “Whatever you want, love, but you’ll be the ONLY one at our wedding who knows why you’re carrying jewelry instead of flowers.”
Not that that would stop me, but it got me thinking: Are some of the more modernized details (trends) that we stress over things that NO ONE at the wedding will even understand? Things like an organized after party, first-look photos, etc.
I certainly don’t think these things are pointless, quite the opposite, but when I first got started planning, there were so many details that seem to be exclusive to a wedding planning community like this. “Brides in the know,” so to speak
Post # 3
I didn’t know about “alternative” bouquets until I went to a very DIY wedding and loved it! I showed my mom pictures and she was little… not excited about it, so I think most people just have never seen that before. I honestly think either they will love it and think it’s the greatest ever, or it’ll be grandma who goes “BUT WHERE ARE ALL THE FLOWERS.” Either way, it’s your bouquet. Plus I think a lot of things you learn as you go… all these traditions, the first look things. My SO I don’t think has ever heard of first-look, and that’ll sure be an interesting convertsation!
Post # 4
Yes, lots of the details we stress over only we notice or other very recent or soon to be brides.
I am pretty sure most people do not remember the color of linens and if they clashed with the dresses or if the signature cocktail used rum instead of vodka or if your favors were your favorite flavor of tea or even if there were favors.
We mostly do it because we want to, not because it really matters in the end.
Post # 5
Yep, I sat with my grandma the other day and showed her what a brooch bouquet was and a button boutonierre. I also showed my mum cos I was IN LOVE with them and she was like “umm its a button?” lol
Post # 6
What exactly are first look photos? Haha I must be out of the loop!
Post # 7
I do think that wedding blogging is making the wedding universe a little smaller. Important details for regional locations are being passed along to other locations with various tweeks to the details for example the Pittsburgh cookie table has been fancied up to be called a Viennese table. Fancied up by title, but not really foods because a true Pittsburgh Cookie table has pastries and baked goodies galore. And concepts like candy that matches the bridesmaids gowns are being expanded as people realize that little details make a big splash for the guests!
Post # 8
- Wedding: June 2012 - Pippin Hill Farm & Vineyards
The Viennese table has been a popular in the NYC area for decades. Maybe it’s just catching on elsewhere?
Happily, most guests don’t read wedding blogs (unless you’re of an age when loads of your girlfriends are getting married), so things we worry about being overplayed will see fresh and different. 🙂
Post # 9
Most people don’t remember details which is why having an expensive wedding wasn’t a priority for me since no one will remember it anyhow. I’ve tried thinking back to some of the weddings I’ve gone to in the past and I will sometimes remember a couple of details but that’s about it. I usually just remember if the food was really good or really terrible lol. I think that doing things that are sentimental to you and your Fiance is all that really matters. Even if it only matters to the two of you, it’s worth it IMO. As for the brooch bouquet, I think that is really unique and as a guest I would probably remember that. Then again, I’m a huge fan of anything DIY. I know I’ve seen brooch bouqets quite often online but I’ve never been to a wedding where anyone had one.
Post # 10
In 10 years from now no one but you will remember details about your wedding. That was my mantra when planning mine. I would stop and think “Will this even matter in 25 years?” That might be why I spent a fortune on photos.
Post # 11
When my best friend got married a few months ago, she had put so much time and money into tons and tons of personal details. Only a few people actually noticed and commented on them, and she told me afterwards that she wished she hadn’t put so much effort into certain projects, because it kind of sucks when no one says “hey that was a gorgeous persoanlized aisle runner you spent 18 hours on!”. No one saw the aisle runner because, well, it was under our feet! It kind of helped me re-prioritize my wedding project list and only focus on the projects that were very meaningful to me. She also did a brooch bouquet and it was a huge hit! Everyone gave her a brooch so she was carrying a piece of us all. Now it sits in a jar in her dressing room as a nice memory.
Post # 12
Things people remember about a wedding:
– The bride (and the groom somewhat)
– Whether the bride and groom made sure to see everyone either in the receiving line or at the reception
– The food and drinks.
They don’t tend to remember bridesmaid dresses, linens, centerpieces, bouquets, first dance songs, etc.
Post # 13
Seriously, it wasn’t until i was knee deep into planning until I started freaking about getting them. On hindsight, I was nuts! But one of my best friends said that was normal. 😛
Post # 14
Any time I get caught up in the wedding industry/blogs I ask myself, “Will anyone even notice?” The answer is always no. People try to justify themselves by saying the details create a mood, the bride knows, they add personality, etc. Those are just brides and companies who want your money justifying completely unnoticable expense.
We spent a ton on a dreamy venue. It doesn’t NEED chair upgrades, decor, linen upgrades, etc. No one will notice. When I look at my wedding photos, I’m going to be going, “Awww. Us!” not “I’m so glad I upgraded to silk blue linens. It really brings in the room.”
Post # 15
i was looking through my friends wedding photo’s from a wedding that i attended. she had her photographer take a picture of absolutely everything. when looking through them i awww’d at her topiary trees she had standing in the reception entrance… i said how pretty are those’ her reaction was …’WHAT you didn’t even notice them’ … i didn’t tbh i noticed the mini ones on the tables but not two 5 ft ones i walked past about a 20 times. she had spent a fortune on them and decorated them beautifully.. still i am putting a lot into my detailing because … well i want to 🙂 but more for us than anyone else. to me it doesn’t matter how long it takes for my guests to forget the little details as long as they have a great time and my and hubby to be will remember forever