Post # 1
Is it typical for a wedding DJ to do a walk through of a site with you, or is that considered going above and beyond?
How fast do DJ’s book up, especially for Friday weddings?
If a vendor tells you they’ll hold your date for 7 days, but you won’t be in a position to make a decision for another 16 days or so, would you let the vendor know to not hold the date? (I want to be courteous, but I also don’t want to spam the guy.)
I am super psyched about this DJ we talked to. I was ready to put down a deposit on the spot, but FH wants to wait till the wedding expo, which is in a couple of weeks, to talk to at least one more DJ. His idea makes sense, of course, we should do some shopping around first. He would love to have a drag queen DJ, but he acknowledges that one would be out of our budget (and I can’t find any in our area.) I think instead we’re going to do a bachelor(ette) party at a drag show brunch. The wedding expo will have a bunch of DJ’s there, including the one we talked to, and a guy who goes by DJ Hot Chocolate. He might have the sass that FH is looking for. I’m still holding out for my posh British DJ, but maybe I’ll change my mind!
We put down the deposit for our venue last week, we’re picking out the gemstones for my ring today, we’re also going to to the Gem Faire today where we might find the stones for our wedding bands. Yesterday I got a call back from a caterer who had such a positive energy. We’re going to talk to her about cost and menus when the weather is cooler so we’ll be in the mood for the warm, hearty fall foods we want to serve at our wedding.
Just wanted to share my excitement!
Post # 2
I have never heard of a DJ doing a walk through; my florist did, but it was like the a couple weeks before the wedding and it was not with me, but with my wedding planner.
The DJ was honestly our “top priority” vendor, because DH and I really believed the DJ makes or breaks the reception. We had been to one too many weddings with DJs that couldn’t read the room nor keep the guest on the dance floor. We went to one wedding expo but honestly didn’t find it that helpful and finding vendors. We actually were recommended our DJs agency by a photographer we were interviewing (and ultimately booked). Rememeber- vendors work and witness the work of other vendors and will almost always give you honest reviews and recommendations.
We took the time and vetted our DJ very carefully prior to booking. We listed to some of his mixes, reviewed his resume, and asked him for a personalized mix of the vibe we were going for and he nailed it. We only booked after we were 100% confident in our pick. This was a little more than a year out from our wedding date.
Post # 3
I’ve never heard of dj’s doing a walk-through.
i think you can be honest with him that you won’t be able to make a decision for another 16 days. When I was in that position with another vendor, they didn’t officially hold my date, but they assured me they’d give me a heads up if someone else was interested (ie give me dibs).
Personally I found wedding expos very useful. I found my (awesome and absurdly cheap) caterer and my amazing wedding coordinator at an expo.
Post # 4
Thank you for your thoughts! Picking a DJ will be a lot harder than I had thought. How important do you think it is for a DJ to be familiar with the venue?
We’re going to have our ceremony on the sand (venue is in the bay), dinner will be at the L shaped patio where some of the guests may have a harder time seeing us, and the dance floor is indoors. I think this will have a big impact on when we decide to do the cake cutting and first dance, and I’d like the DJ to give their input based on parties they’ve done at the location.
Post # 5
I’d recommend getting a walkthrough with your DJ if it all possible. I understand it might be possible for a destination wedding. I’d say it’s important for you to be comfortable, have someone who is curious about you and someone who is comfortable with your curiosity. I have a blog with questions for potential vendors if you’d like to check it out: https://www.shiningcitymusic.com/beyondprices/
I wish you and yours the best!
Post # 6
The biggest problem today is that almost all DJ’s play what THEY like, and not what the guests like. The second most common problem is that most DJ’s do not play songs that are crossover. In other words, songs that can be enjoyed by a minimum of 2 types of dancers at all times. For instance, they’ll intentionally play Any Way You Want It by Journey. Think about that for a second, less than 1/3 of all wedding guests liked that song when it was new, even less now….. the only people that enter the dance floor for a pitiful song like that are the drunk, the bashers, or desperate. The rest sit it out and laugh at the DJ, or god forbit, the bride for hiring a DJ like that. Instead, the DJ could have played Lowdown by Bozz Scaggs…… a hit when it was new, and still packs the floor today because it caters to West Coast Swing dancers, Freestyle dancers, and disco/hustle dancers. 3 distinct groups! Another song is Lady Love by Lou Rawls….. people over 40 adore it, partner dancers love it, and people that just want to hand on to each other love. Boom…. 3 groups of people happy AND ON THE FLOOR at once. Again, everything else is fog, demand from the dejay a list of the songs and how they fit (without lying) at least 2 distinctly different groups of dancers. IF he can do that, you got a winner of a night, if he can’t…….. don’t expect rave reviews.