Post # 1
My fiancee and I have been together over 5 years and have lived together for 2. We really don’t “need” anything from a registry, but would prefer to have people donate towards the wedding.
Does anyone know of either a website or another form to accept donations? I know Kickstart, but they tend to get a percentage of the money raised.
Post # 2
Please, please don’t do that.
If you don’t wat physical gifts, just don’t register. I promise, people will get the hint.
Post # 4
Actually Zola has these options under their “experiences” tab. People can gift you $ for flowers, hair, photography. I understand prefering money to objects you don’t need, but I think it helps people to know where the $ is going sometimes. And it is nicer and more polite to give them the option than to straight out ask for $. Also, Zola will let you register for charities. Please make sure you also include actual objects though for your Traditional guests.
Post # 5
- Wedding: May 2016 - Cherry Orchard
please don’t do this. People shouldn’t be paying for the party you’re inviting them to.
Post # 6
Like PP said, just don’t have a registry. People will gift cash.
Post # 7
I’m sorry, I understand the desire, but I don’t think there’s a good way to do this because it really isn’t done. Asking people to contribute money to the party they’re attending is a bit like a snake eating its own tail.
If I had friends who asked me to contribute to the cost of their wedding in lieu of a gift, I would feel bad about attending, like I was burdening them financially by adding to their numbers. I would also prefer they use any cash I give them toward their future, not flower arrangements, if they were so pressed financially.
Post # 8
A better bet is to have a wedding you two can afford and just not register. 9 out of 10 guests will give cash if there is no registry.
Post # 9
I’m going to go against the grain (as usual) and say that it probably depends on your guests. I understand that many may see this as tacky, but others may not. I was told on here that having guests help with the food was a horrible idea that I should never consider. When I asked many of the guests though, they thought it was a wonderful idea. (We ended up deciding not to do this because we got a great deal on catering.) My point is…and I’m certain that most will disagree with this…you know your guests. You know whether they would see this as tacky or as a great way to contribute to making your day meaningful. Personally, I would be happy to know that I was able to contribute to a friend’s day rather than buying them more stuff they’ll never use.
Post # 10
wow didn’t read carefully. Wtf that’s messed up. Do not ask for donations, that’s basically charging admission.
Post # 11
Invite all Chinese people! Our traditional wedding gift is red envelopes with cash inside. Easy for hosts, easy for guests. Don’t really get Americans’ bugbear against gifting money for weddings.
Post # 12
Keep in mind that basically you are asking people to pre gift you. If you want them to contribute to the wedding that means they would have to give you their gift months in advance to be of any help. It’s just not a good idea.
I would say do a small registry with things you would like to update (bedding, pillows, towels) and leave it at that. You don’t have to put a bunch on it, just a few options for traditional gift givers. Most people will still probably gift you a check or cash or even gift cards. But they will gift you AT the wedding, not months before.
Post # 13
I agree with you. I think it depends on your guests and your circle of friends. I was complainging about the samething. I’m middled aged. I like my dishes. I suppose I could get new sheets…but eh. My cousin suggested that we sign up for some website that allows ppl to pay for, or help pay for a honeymoon(since we cant afford one). My family thought it was a great idea.
I totally see where you are coming from. And I’m not sure what I am going to do. I’m in the same boat. But I think most people here will find it horrifying you would suggest such a thing.
Post # 14
Please do not do this. IF you can not afford a wedding then elope. This is so so tacky and rude to ask people to pay for your wedding
Post # 15
just sell tickets to your “wedding”.
Just kidding, asking for donations to fund your wedding is tacky as f◇ck!