(Closed) Wedding Donations Instead of Registry

posted 5 years ago in Money
Post # 31
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: August 2014

I guess it depends on your guests and culture. I’m hispanic and it is typical in the place in Mexico where my parents are from to basically ask for donations to your wedding. Honestly it’s so common we don’t even have to ask cause as soon as someone is getting married we just offer to help. I married outside my race and hubby and I wanted a small wedding so we didn’t ask for donations however we had relatives on my side coming up offering to buy my flowers, centerpieces and even my gown. I will say though if they are paying they definitely get a say in the wedding. They can bring extra guest etc.. so it just depends 

Post # 32
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Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

The OP has deleted her account.

Post # 33
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: January 2017

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Post # 34
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Buzzing bee

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joesbride1226:  WTH. You totally misread what I said. I didnt say taht people shouldnt’ elope.  Some people would rather elope. But I’m so tired that if you cant afford a proper wedding then elope. I was told to do the samething because we are having a *gasp* cash bar.  I am saving up, and not charging a thing and we have been engaged for nearly 3 years.  But, according to some people I can’t afford a proper wedding and therefore should elope.

 

 

Post # 35
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2016

Have the wedding that you can afford. Asking for money is super tacky.

Post # 36
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: January 2027

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VictorianChick:  not what you said, but nice trying to back track there. ๐Ÿ˜‰ ๐Ÿ˜‰

Post # 37
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Buzzing bee

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joesbride1226:  Im not backtracking.

People do have kids they cant afford but no one says anything about that being bad.

People are always saying if you can’t have a proper wedding then its bad and you should elope or have a courthouse wedding.

Post # 38
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: May 2018- Stan Hywet Gardens

You are the host. You pay for your wedding. Don’t ask your guests to pay for your party. 

Post # 39
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: January 2027

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VictorianChick:  so if that’s what you’re saying, then what? You’re whining because the government pays for people’s kids but not your wedding? So you think tax dollars should go towards a party? Because, you deserve a big wedding? Or people should just stay unmarried if they can’t afford the wedding they want?

Either way you’ve dug a hole you can’t get out of.

ETA: I don’t know where you’re from, but around  here plenty of people talk about people who pop out kids thinking the government should pay for them. Not people who work hard and need extra help, but people who sit on their a$$ and live off tax dollars.

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Post # 40
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Busy bee

I don’t think it’s tacky at all! But maybe that’s because I’m Korean and it’s tradition to just give cash as a gift at a wedding. 

I’ve seen a lot of my friends (who are non Korean) actually set up a honeymoon funding account. So instead of cold hard cash at your wedding, they can contribute to your honeymoon, which I’m assuming is cash into your bank account anyways. 

All in all, NO I don’t think it’s tacky. As a practical person myself, I’d rather receive cash than two coffee makers.

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