- 8 years ago
- Wedding: September 2012
So sorry for your loss. Best wishes to you and your husband.
Your friend was definitely wrong demoting you without a conversation, its definitely a conversation and like others have said, one best conducted in person.
She was even more wrong to suggest that you were changing circumstances getting pregnant and then miscarrying, WHAT?
I do however, think that the situation has now been reduced to bickering and unexpressed tensions and you are a part of that. Like previous posters, what can she do to fix this situation? You need to figure that out, tell her and let her fix it. I don’t see what can be gained by just feeling hurt and showing it to her.
I had a BIG falling out with my best friend 3 years ago, and she’s recently come back into my life but now that I’m getting married she’s not my Maid/Matron of Honor, which is sad. We both understand why that decision was made and are rebuilding our friendship. A big part of that however was me deciding to just let everything go. I am usually one for talking things out, putting the hours in to hash it out and fix it but every time I thought about what had happened I got angry, so I had to decide, do I want her in my life or is it more important to me to feel hurt by what had happened and have her apologise and somehow earn my forgiveness. I chose her and that meant moving on with or without that.
Don’t let it come to that between you two, fix it and move on. Tell her how you feel but do it with a view to making things right not just satisfying your need for her to hear you, and hope that she will recognise that and say sorry anyway.