(Closed) Wedding Drama

posted 7 years ago in Emotional
Post # 32
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336 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: April 2014

@octoberbride102013:  Glad you found a man with a sweet family.  Sounds like your bro and SIL are not very supportive or grateful, and I’m sorry your dad reacted the way he did.  I can’t believe for the children’s sake, they can’t get over themselves for 5 mintues so your niece and nephew can walk down the aisle.  As if your brother is coming without his wife and family.  I’m sure your day will be just magical though!

Post # 34
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719 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

OP, I’m so sorry you’re dealing with this. If I’ve discovered anything during wedding-planning-time, is that weddings seem to bring out the crazy, not the compassionate in some people. It sounds like your family already has had some drama with these folks, and they are probably steaming that you are getting this attention and they are not. Shame on them for wanting to “throw out” a perfectly beautiful dress YOU paid for. Shame on them for fighting you on putting their son in a suit. Good riddance, frankly, though I’m sorry you have to deal with this.

Post # 35
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1639 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: November 2013

Where do they live around here, I’ll try to run them off the Beltway during rush hour. But without the kids in the car, obviously. 😛

Post # 38
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367 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2014

@octoberbride102013:  we dont have flowergirl or a ring bearer, I think this is asking for too much of little kids, who can cry and mess up. No kids wedding

Post # 39
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44 posts
Newbee
  • Wedding: October 2013

Sometimes people just can’t handle something not being about them. It’s YOUR day, and it sounds to me like this sister-in-law is using her kid to make herself matter. That’s really sad, but you can’t control her behaviour. You can only control yourself. I say let the little one wear whatever she has to wear to make things run as smoothly as possible. In my opinion, it’s not about the clothes, it’s about the people in them. We have a friend’s daughter as our flower girl, and her mom went out and bought a dress without talking to me first, and it’s totally wrong. it has enbroidered flowers on it, and have been VERY adamant about NO FLOWERS at the wedding. We are having all fall leaves (October 19th), and she will even being throwing leaves, but it’s not worth it to me to fight about a dress. The littlw girl is excited and happy, and honestly, noone but me is even going to pay much attention to the dress, because she’s going to be so cute it really doesn’t matter. It’s not worth straining my relationship with these friends over a dress that will only be worn for a couple of hours. 

Post # 40
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44 posts
Newbee
  • Wedding: October 2013

p.s. I’m not saying you don’t have every right to be mad. I would be mad too in your position. I’m just saying, you have to choose your battles.. and it’s more important that the little girl isn’t hurt or disappointed. 

Post # 41
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223 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

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@AlmostMrsShea:  Did you read the entire thread? Preventing  One little girl’s momentary disappointment is not worth a bride having her wedding day ruined by emotional terrorists & bullies. I think in the end the SIL did her a favor – now she wont have to deal with these awful, nasty ppl on her wedding day and can be surrounded by emotionally supportive ppl who love her – not manipulative emotional vampires

Post # 43
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2090 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: September 2014

I get really freaking sick of people trying to control other people. I have had one too many falling outs with my FI’s sister and she is out of the wedding. She is a rude, controlling, and vindictive control-freak b*tch, and I only want people standing next to me whom I trust. If she screws with me, she will not be invited at all, and I don’t care if other relatives refuse to go because of it (I doubt that would happen). Your ahole of a brother is lucky to be invited (I am guessing you really wanted your niece and nephew there). Trust me, the kids are aware of what is going on and will eventually realize that their parents are a pair of douches. Keep him at arm’s length. Family can be worse than an enemy, because they have a sense of entitlement and can manipulate you more; you protect yourself better from an enemy. Best of luck to you…

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