(Closed) Wedding Dress 2nd Thoughts?

posted 10 years ago in Dress
Post # 3
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76 posts
Worker bee
  • Wedding: August 2008

I bought my first dress probably sooner than I should have.  I thought I liked it but as time went on, the more I tried it on, the less I liked it.  So, one day I decided I was going to look again….found "the" dress, tried it on and it was perfect…I am so happy I didn’t settle for a dress I didn’t love.

I was able to sell dress number one on Weddingbee!

I say try to sell it if you don’t love it and start over.

Post # 4
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1813 posts
Buzzing bee

maybe try to sell it but (if you have time) don’t seriously start to shop for a new one yet or at least don’t buy one until you see if you can afford 2

Post # 5
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2004 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: November 2008

You’re right, your dress does not seem appropriate for a small outdoor ceremony. I would look for another dress, but to keep costs down, see if you can get one used from another bride, on places like craigslist and weddingbee classifieds. Mark the funds you would have used toward cleaning and alternations toward purchasing and altering another pre-loved dress for yourself.  

I would not try to substantially alter this dress—too dangerous. Selling it might take a little work, since in these days of casual outdoor ceremonies you’re going to be catering to the bride who is having the lavish, formal affair. Don’t give up though! Good luck.

Post # 6
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47 posts
Newbee
  • Wedding: October 2008

The dress is gorgeous, especially the color.  Sometimes our instincts/impulses are not a bad thing.  If I were you I’d wait a couple weeks before you do anything, and really think it through (but without obsessing).  If you really love the dress, who cares if its a small outdoor ceremony.  Anything goes now adays.  You could also wear it for the ceremony, then get a second dress for the reception thats a little more low key.   That is a beautiful dress and something must have attracted you to it!   Try to focus on what attracted you to it.  did you try on others at the sample or was this the only one?

Post # 7
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508 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: December 1969

The dress was one of the first wedding purchases for us.  I did have second thoughts, but am actually so happy I stuck with my dress. It’s probably pretty common with those who buy dresses early.

Major alterations seem more than a little risky on your dress.  If you have second thoughts on your dress, try putting the itaway for a bit and trying it on again fresh.  If you still question your decision, start looking around and see if another dress calls out to you.  Should you find another dress, then sell this one (ebay, weddingbee, craigslist).   

Post # 8
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244 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: May 2008

yeah it doesn’t fit the "feel" of a small outdoor wedding…but if you love it then I say "who cares". Fashion police won’t stop you.  BUT if you aren’t totally into it then just try selling it and see what happens…you might be able to recoup most of the cost. 

Post # 9
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79 posts
Worker bee
  • Wedding: September 2008

I bought my dress relatively early too.  Although I still love it, I do regret spending so much money on it (it was 3x more than I was looking to spend).  I’m sure I could have found something else I loved for much less. 

Post # 10
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2695 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: February 2008

I agree with BaghdadBride -if you love it, wear it! No one is going to look at you and think "That dress is too nice"  – most likely they will think "She looks stunning!!"  I think it is an awesome dress and if you love it, consider keeping it !!  But if you don’t love, I agree drastic alterations are not the way to go….

FYI, I had massive second thoughts on my dress but I wore it and loved it – there was a reason I bought it and I couldn’t have been happier!

Post # 11
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Newbee
  • Wedding: September 2011

I bought my dress in November and there was a dress I really wanted to try on the day I went to buy my dress. They didn’t have a size I could even squeeze into so I went ahead and bought my dress. Now I still think about the other dress i couldn’t try on. Im in the same boat as youFrown

Post # 12
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6 posts
Newbee
  • Wedding: March 2012

Hi Ladies,

 

Well here is my “regrets” story….

 

I went dress shoppng with my mom, aunt and bff…we went to 3 stores on Miracle Mile in Coral Gables,Fl.  I tried on like 7 dresses or so before i found what I THOUGHT was the one… it was the Pronovias White One Style 411

As I was leaving the store I told the lady I wanted to think about it….she offered me $200 off the dress and my BFF was like “girl, you better take it”…so I did.  The minute I got home I was regretting my dicision…did I try on enough dresses, did I just chose it becuase it was the best of what I had tried on?  Anyway, for months I tried to ignore all the negative feeling I was having, hopiong that when I put the dress on again, I would feel differently.

 

Fast forward 4 months…I go for my first fitting….I put on the dress, the belt, the veil, hoping to get THAT feeling…..and….NOTHING!!!!!  but then I try to rationalise againg…its a pretty dress, it looks nice on you….etc….anyway, its time to walk out and show my entourage….I walk out, stand on the pedestal…and what do I get…SILENCE!!!!!!!  Not like a good silince, with jaws dropped etc…nope…JUST SILENCE!!!!!  right then and there I knew…I needed another dress.

 

The very next day, my mom and I went back to the Mile and I teid oun about 10 more dresses…I REFUSED to settle this time…

THis time, I absolutely fell in love with the Justin Alexander Style 8486

 

AHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHH…….I ABSOLUTELY LOVE IT!!!!!

 

This pic just doesnt do it justice….the buttons on the back are made of Swarosvki crystals…it hugs me in all the right places…just so you have an idea, I am a size 14, my measurements are 39-30-47…I’m kinda hippy…lol

I thought I needed a mermaid dress, to show off my figure….buu this ballgown shows of my figure perfectly.

 

Ladies, my advice to you is…DONT SETTLE…if you have even a 1% doubt…keep looking….dont let your family and friends sway you away from what your gut tells you.

 

I finally said yes to the RIGHT dress and couldnt be happier.

 

I will pick up my dress in January and post some pics then.

 

 

 

 

Post # 13
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6 posts
Newbee
  • Wedding: March 2012

Ok Bees……heres me in the dress…still needds a few alterations, but I’m picking it up on Wednesday….sooooooooooooo EXCITED

Post # 14
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6 posts
Newbee
  • Wedding: March 2012

and heres the back…..

Post # 15
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6 posts
Newbee
  • Wedding: March 2012

 

Post # 16
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2014

@bisaZZa:  I agree with some other PPs the dressis gorgeous but it’s a bit much for a small outdoor wedding. I would try to sell it and wait to buy another one.

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