Post # 1
I am about to vent and tell me if I am just being silly…
I recently got engaged on Aug.11th, I am so excited and thought I would have a different reaction from my closest friends than what I am receiving. Are they happy for me? Yes, I believe so but I do not feel any support or help with the planning. Granted out of my closest friends I am the only one in a stable relationship and getting married. I thought after I informed them they would be just as happy as I am and want to kick off the planning. But have I had any of that? (you can hear crickets now) no not really. I am not expecting them to go all out, but at least ask what are my plans, do I need any help or say GIRL LET’S GO SHOPPING. (like they always do)
I do not know what to expect, when there something going great in there life I am the best supporter I can be. I chose my divas to be in the wedding and I thought I would at least hear from them. I hear from them on any other days but since I have not but one of Maid/Matron of Honor. I have two Maid/Matron of Honor, my BFF in Boston and cousin.
Speaking of my Cousin I thought she would be like we need to do this and that since she knows the industry a bit and I thought I would lean on her for guidance. Nope, she seem annoyed when I talk about it (decided not talk about my wedding anymore with anyone) I asked her to go to a bridal expo with me and what I heard was a sigh and ummm, so I cut her off and told her to forget it. I was kind of taken back because we do everything together and she normally do not have this attitude with me. So she says I will go if you want to go and everyone keeps telling me I have enough time. But she did go dress browsing with me, i punked out and asked her through text I did not want to be rejected again over the phone.
Now for the alright stuff…
My cousin and I went dress browsing and I was excited and ready to go. She pops up and tells me before we go I want to go to great cuts to get my hair trimmed then we can go. I didn’t pop an attitude, I was just happy I was not going alone. So we get to great cuts she tells me I am a moody person, I said I am not moody and what do you mean. She acts upidty and I am a realist and like to have fun at times. I accept folks for who they are and not what I want them to be. Any how we went dress browsing at Anya Bridals and the agent we had she was blah and my cousin was blah too. I was like WHY ME lol… I pushed through it and I tried on some gowns and asked my cousin to take some photos. As I tried on the gowns she told me this is not a fashion show, but I wanted to see them in every angle when I get home. I shrugged my shoulders and hurried up, where is the sales girl hmm I don’t know. Also, as I tried on the gowns I realized I gained more weight than I thought so I weighted myself and I gainned 30pounds and I felt ugly in the dresses or hot diggty mess.
My question to you am I being overly sensitive about everything and which style you like most?
Dress 1 Allure front and back
Dress 2 One shoulder with tulle
Post # 3
- Wedding: October 2013 - Tybee Island, GA
I like the 2nd dress the best!!
Post # 5
Some things you need to accept to avoid being hurt/upset in the future:
No one will be as excited about your wedding as you, ever. It is up to you and your Fiance to plan the wedding, not the bridal party. If they offer to help that is one thing, and if you need help you can ask, but they are not required to help plan/do DIY projects etc.
I know you seem to have gotten off to a bit of a sad start planning, but hopefully going forward you can adjust your expectations of what your bridal party is for.
As for the dresses, I think it is fine to try on many styles, take pictures (lucky the salon even let you take pictures without purchasing!) to get a feel of what you like. Sounds like the salon you went to wasn’t a great experience. Ask friends/family/coworkers what salons they recommend and read reviews online to try and find one that will be a better experience. I think the first dress is a more flattering shape on you.
ETA: saw you posted another dress, I like dress 3 as well on you!
Post # 6
@gigglebox: Thank you… I like the style and I was able to move in it as well. The only thing I didn’t like was the flowers on the strap it feels like it would irritate me all night and I would think something is on me too.
Post # 7
is that anya bridal? i went there and tried on dress 3 as well. so i do love that dress the best on you. im in atlanta too, maybe we should get an atlanta group together to start doing things because i dont really have friends here either. i had to do all my dress shopping with Fiance. you shold try Bel Fiore in marietta, thats where i got my dress and i loooove it and their customer service was much better to me than Anya, if you want to PM me you can and at least you can have someone to talk to about it 🙂
Post # 8
@pixiecat: Thanks lady… I appreciate the advice and will keep it on my mind. I don’t really expect them to help with anything but I just thought they would offer and when I do ask I won’t get the answers I get. I love the fact my Fiance wants to be invoved but he only has an attention span for about an hour then I see him looking sleepy. We went venue browsing, we were talking with the venue coordinator and he looked bored after a little bit. So when I do speak with him I will just need to have all my ducks in a row and get in where I fit in for that moment. LOL…
What do my bridal party do? I just thought we just enjoy this time of planning, but like some say everyone is not as excited as I am. But when an old friend of mine got engaged I was more excited than she was. Oh well.
Post # 9
@CarpefnDiem: You are sweet as pie… Thank you we should start a group of inspiration and support. I will check it out this weekend.
Post # 10
I like dress 3 too but my Fiance don’t like ruffles… I want him to boowhoo when he sees me. If I can find the right dress with a little ruffle and inexpensive I am on it.
Post # 11
@JJSoon2bwife14: Yea you will soon learn people arent as happy as you are, but thats what we are here for,
in regards to dress I like 2, on you, inregards to the weight… I think you look amazing, I love the definition in your back, and your shoulders
I think you will look amazing on your wedding dress, and please never forget your fiance’ sees you every day and he loves the woman you are the size that you are,
now if you dont like something change it but dont beat yourself over it!
and the cousin well she was the moody one,
Post # 12
Dress 3 is stunning!!!!!!
Post # 13
@JJSoon2bwife14: love love love the first one!
A very wise person warned me before I started planning that I will never get what I give to others. So, when the girls who I helped plan their big day were lacking in the support area, it was the reaction that I expected. You mentioned that many of your friends aren’t married – there is a good chance they are jealous of where you are at in your life. When my best friend got engaged a few years ago, I was a bit of an ass (looking back) simply because I was so sad about not being close to that part of my life yet.
I’ve done most of my wedding stuff by myself (some help from the amazing Mr.) and I’ve actually prefered it! I’m able to do things on my own schedule, and I don’t have to hear anyone’s input into what they don’t like 😉
Big hugs girl! Just keep your focus on what’s most important – marrying the man of your dreams 🙂
Post # 14
I like #2 because it hugs your bottom
really well. You want to give your guests a nice view during the ceremony lol!
Post # 15
I am teary eye over here… Thanks ladies for the support and Ilike #1 and 2. I am going to reach out to the bees alot and hopefully my wedding will flow the way I want it too. But it sure would be great if I knew what the heck I was doing…
Post # 16
@MrsBucket: You are a whoot… I want it to be fitted so my baby can be like HOT Damn here she comes. LOL