- 5 years ago
- Wedding: November 2013
Hello, So this is the first post I am starting and would really love some help from the hive. I have been going back and forth in my head about my dress and it’s driving me a little nuts. This post is going to be kind of long because I haven’t really been able to talk to anyone about this. If you don’t want to read all of this, but want to give comments on the dress, feel free. Any thoughts about it, the situation, or even if you can identify it would be great!
So, my dress shopping story. I am the oldest child and will be the first to get married, also the oldest cousin – no immediate experience with weddings or dress shopping, etc. A friend of mine in DC had me talking to another DC area bride and she told me where she got her dress from and that she recommended the shop. My mom really wanted to go with me to try on dresses and most of my bridesmaids are not local, so just the two of us went. I set up appointments at four salons over two days and decided to make the first appointment at the one suggested to me by the friend of friend. I knew this salon’s low end was the high end of my budget, but I figured I wanted at least one nice salon experience before going to the cheaper area salons.
I went and met with my consultant who grabbed a variety of dresses for me to try on. I established that I was not against buying sample dress, so that was helping my chances. It was difficult though because the girl in the main store area at the same time had a budget about 4x mine and I guess my mom didn’t grasp that because she kept pointing out the dresses she had on that she liked. It was really upsetting, because my fiance and I are paying for our wedding ourselves. And once I realized how expensive alterations would be, I had to drop my dress budget down even further.
The dress pictured is one she had me try on. I liked that the top was flattering, but wasn’t crazy about the bottom. I guess even though I wasn’t sure what style I wanted, I always thought that your wedding day is that one day you can really wear a gown – like big, ball gown. So I started thinking I wanted something with gorgeous ruffles at the bottom. The salon, of course, had the pronovias gown I had been eyeballing, but when she heard my budget, she said I shouldn’t even try it ony because it was over double my budget. That was a little sad, but I am glad she didn’t put me in it / let me fall in love with it / and then feel super guilty about spending so much!
Anyways, back on track – so she tells me I can buy this dress, the sample dress for $800 (half of the regular price for it) and that it could be sold at anytime. So we leave, try to make some other last minute appointments to try on other gowns and I find a few I liked, but this second salon wasn’t good with sticking to my budget. I guess she thought I was more flexible or that my mom was in a financial position to help out. I was getting really anxious and worried that the first gown would be gone by the time I’d get back there if we waited for the two additional appointments that were scheduled for the next day. So we drove like an hour back to that salon, before it closed and I ended up buying the dress right then. I called the salons we had appointments set up for the next day and canceled them.
My biggest concern: I didn’t have that OMG this is MY DRESS moment when I tried it on. The other girl who was there trying on dresses 4x my budget…well her mom or aunt told me it was my dress. But, other than that – the only feedback I had was my mom and the consultant. I immediately started to have buyers remorse. Did I really just buy something that is non-returnable and a HUGE portion of my budget, unsure if I liked it??
I stressed about it all weekend while I was at my mom’s house and even when I got back to DC. I felt so awful that I rushed into such a big purchase without any feedback and being so unsure. My bridesmaids all told me that they liked the dress, but I honestly think they would tell me that regardless, knowing how guilty I would feel with the money I spent and the rash decision (which was very unlike me).
If you girls could give some honest feedback on what you think of the dress it would really be awesome. I was so worked up about it afterwards that my fiance said if I really don’t love it when I go to get it from my mom’s that I can buy another dress. Again, that would make me feel guilty, but this time around I would end up buying a preowned gown or maybe even seeing how much it would cost to get this dress to be more ruffley / poofier at the bottom to be more of what I think I want.
Also, if I did go about altering it to make it poofier, is that going to cost me the same price as another dress? I know alterations are pretty expensive, especially around the DC area.
Anyways, thanks for listening to my long story!!